How to get back at a player for hurting you

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I know this will sound too bad, to wanna hurt someone. I'm not really that type of person AT ALL and maybe this was the real problem, am the nice-girl type! I've been madly in love with this guy for I don't know how long, but he just kept toying with my emotions and eventually told me he doesn't have feelings for me. Tried to leave but he insisted we remain friends (well, yeah I've allowed it too I admit! I was hoping). But gradually he started to treat me like am nothing, hurt me, flirt with me sometimes, then disappear, then come back, etc. I'm sure he can tell I still having feelings for him. Now I just want to get my pride and self-respect back. Please tell me what should I do? What is the thing that hurt guys the most? Here are some ideas, if you have comments, please mention them too. Guys' opinions are very appreciated.

Pick a fight with him 2
Tell him how he hurt you 3
Disappear out of his life 16
Remain friends and act as if nothing has happened 3
Other 6
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  • anti-hero
    10 years ago

    Take him out and buy him things, take him home and cook him good food, have sex with him 5 or 6 times and then never call him again.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    You know what would actually help? Just leave and stop hurting yourself by being around him.

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      I would listen to this. It takes more time, effort and pain plotting your revenge scheme. You are just going to spend a whole chunk of your life consumed by hate for this person. I would move on and get over it. Giving him the time of day means you are still obsessing over him. So fuck him... He does not deserve your attention he played you. Move on already.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Just ignore him. Trying hard to get back at him will only show that you still care about him. It will make you look desperate.

    Move on.

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  • Roger_Maxson
    10 years ago

    It takes 2 people to fight, but only one strong willed person to end/prevent a fight. I know you want to hurt this guy, I had a similar experience with a girl that led me on, I chose to just forget about her and ignore her. It was difficult and hurt quite a bit, but a couple months later I learned that she got led on shortly after and cried about this guy for months. I had done nothing at all but I felt as though I had won simply by letting karma solve my problem.

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  • tacolord
    10 years ago

    Oh lord... Girl, he's not worth your anger amd he certainly doesnt deserve your revenge! Just let him out of your love life and dont let him toy with you, in three weeks you'll be totally over it!

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Forget about him! Whatever you do don't start talking about your feelings and all that bullshit. I'm not saying your feelings are bullshit but accept that you are powerless over his thoughts, emotions and actions. But you can empower yourself by moving on and basically giving him as little of your time as possible. Users get a big ego boost off of people like yourself being at their beckon call and fawning over them. Don't get mad and start a fight either because that show's you care too. Just make sure that your time, money, body, energy and emotions are not available for this person.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    on more of a serious understanding tone, I know exactly how you feel. I am a really good, nice guy, and because of that, I have let myself be taken advantage of before, and when I realized it, it made me realllllll mad at first. But then I realized that I'm the one who let it happen, so I learned from my mistakes, and I will never let people use me again. And as far as one of the people that wronged me, I found that it is a lot easier on me, my mind, and well being, to find the courage to forgive (knowing that it will never happen again) than to constantly have this hate building inside of me, and would have caused me to do something that I was going to regret later.
    I live my life with no regrets, no grudges, and no worries for the rest of my days. It's my problem free philosophy.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, honey you and only you are at fault here, and if anyone needs to be punished, it's you. You are the one who chose this path for yourself, and only you should be held accountable for your actions. Now learn from your mistakes and have a little respect for yourself. As I always like to say, there are no mistakes, just opportunities to learn from.

    and if you choose not to take my wise advice, just know that he and his buddies are going to have a real good laugh at whatever you try to "do" to him, and stories will be told from generation to generation of "that one crazy bitch."

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  • pinkbug
    10 years ago

    Get a guy friend of urs 2 kick his ass! Or maybe get a girlfriend of urs 2 pretend to date him and cheat on him, ect. I prefer the guy kicking his ass b/c u never know if ur friend isn't really ur friend and really likes him and ends up telling him that u think shes helping u then really dates him.

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