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So, very early on in the relationship, what are the questions to ask a guy to find out if he is domesticated, ie. Knows how to cook, clean etc?
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Obviously you cannot ask somebody that. They can simply lie, and most people are horrible at judging themselves.
Some of the messiest slobs I know seriously think they are neat, hard working and a great room mate and this includes people who piss in jars and ash on the floor.
The best way to judge if someone is not a slob is to look at what they have. If their living space or their car is a mess, then they will be a mess when they move in. Looking in someone's car is a great example of how clean they are elsewhere.
take a dump on his floor
if it aint cleaned up in a week or so then the answers no
For a trial period of a week, be a complete bitch to him. Treat him like you own him, stop him from seeing his friends, scream at him for no reason, etc.
If he still wants to be in a relationship with you after that, he will be easily domesticated.
If he does has a backbone however, you might be able to have a healthy, equal relationship where you both contribute to the cooking and cleaning.
Is he part of a population that has been selectively bred for desirable traits?
Intuition is your best friend. Or, you know, you could just ask what you want to know. "Domesticated" is some pretty harsh wording, on a side note, but I understand where the feeling comes from.
Is there some reason why you can't do the cooking and cleaning? What I mean is, would you only be interested in a relationship with a guy who can cook and clean by himself and wouldn't expect you to do it?
I believe in equality. And I am not interested in being a mother and training a guy in his 30s what I believe to be the basics of life.
Fair enough, some women don't believe in being housewives, and that's fine. I'm sort of the opposite. My SO brings home the bacon, and I cook the bacon. I'm sort of old fashioned that way. Its not that men shouldn't learn how to cook, clean, and do the basics by themselves, but I think its cool when a man supports his lady financially and a lady supports her man by running a household. To each their own though, don't change for anyone. How old are you? If you're in your twenties I'm sure any guy you date who's atleast your age will know how to cook and clean, etc. Maybe casually bring it up in conversation. Like, "I just love cooking pasta dishes. What do you usually cook?"