How to date if you're bad at talking?
Bad at talking and don't have a bunch of stories and content queued up for hours of talking.
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Cuntsiclestick
Honestly, I just kept asking my dates questions about them. It kept the convo going for some of them and they seemed happy at my genuine interest in their lives.
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CountessDouche
This is such good advice!
Most pople fucking love talking about themselves, OP. They will mistake a person who shows interest & asks good questions as an amazing conversationalist & great listener!
I gave this advice to my fiance, then he used it on me & it still worked hahaha.
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Doesnormalmatter
Yes, questions are key. Open ended questions in particular can help get the conversation started.
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Anonymous Post Author
It still takes some skill to come up with good questions and to answer theirs, right? Asking how many siblings they have will only take you so far.
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Cuntsiclestick
There was a user who used to tread here named BugsForBreakfast. He once told me to make a list of questions, memorize the questions, and go through the list. If the person is even remotely interested, they'll keep talking.
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Boojum
If that's the only question you can ever think to ask someone you don't know, you are indeed truly crap at small-talk.
Cuntsiclestick is right: asking your date questions about themselves is a good approach (although you have to be careful to avoid turning into an interrogation). But that only works if you're genuinely curious about the person you're with, and you pay attention to what they're saying. If all you really want to do is get in their pants as soon as possible and you fundamentally don't give a shit about who they are and their life, then only someone who has the gift of the gab will be able to make this work.
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mia500
Talk about your day, gossip about your boss, ask what movies and movies they like and talk about your favorites among those
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RoseIsabella
Look for someone with whom you have shared interests, and a compatible personality. Also like Cuntsiclestick said ask the person questions about him, or herself.
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SwickDinging
You can prepare for this though. Come up with a list of questions to ask to fill in any awkward silences. Ask questions about their job, where they grew up, what they think of where they live now, what do they do for fun etc. And then work off the info they give you - for example, if you find out they play an instrument then take an interest in this and ask follow up questions to learn more about it. People love talking about themselves and their passions.
Just be careful not to sound like you're interrogating them.
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Bumfuzzle
people like to talk about themselves anyway, just get them talking and try your best to relate
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Doesnormalmatter
Ask them very open ended questions so It isn't awkward. Or talk about sex and see how that goes.
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AMERICANsavage
Just try to be fun. Im not a good talker either but if a girl goes on a date with me I'm gonna make sure she has a blast.
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AMERICANsavage
You could take her out on a boat on the lake to go tubing and drink beer.
If you have a funny friend tell her to bring a friend and you bring a friend then yall can go to a bar and shoot pool and to play darts.
Go out in a field and make a campfire with beer and then throw something explosive in the fire like a paint can. Thats kind of interesting.
Could buy some airsoft guns and go play in the woods but go easy on her.
Throw a stink bomb in the movie theater when yallre leaving. Or set one off in walmart or some shit if she wants to.
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Boojum
"Go out in a field and make a campfire with beer and then throw something explosive in the fire like a paint can. Thats kind of interesting."
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Yeah, it's a well-known fact that all really good dates end in the local Emergency Room with at least one person suffering from blunt force trauma and second degree burns.
I guess that would give you something to talk about anyway - even if it is only the name of the lawyer you can expect to hear from.
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