How to confirm if guy has no "backbone"?

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So, this guy I have been in a couple of dates with us trying a but too hard to impress me, mostly by copying me. And by this, I mean he will try and eat what I eat (as in eat healthily), after telling him what I'm wearing to bed he will try and copy the colour scheme or brands. Silly things like that. Also, he alters his vocabulary and uses the words and phrases I use, and emoticons....

Is this perfectly normal? do does this guy not have a "backbone"?

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  • grumpycowpyjamas114
    9 years ago

    Sounds like he likes you a lot. He also sounds cute. Get in there

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  • MonAmour
    9 years ago

    He's mirroring you intentional or not just shows he really likes you. Copying is the highest form of flattery.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Mirroring! Yes! That is exactly what he has been doing!

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Its normal. He likes you and is just trying to get you to like him.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    To be honest I don't really find this healthy at all.

    Eating healthy like you seems normal enough, but copying your color scheme, brands, etc.. He's not being himself.

    Again, be on your guard in the case he becomes your stalker. By the time you know it, he'll start wearing your panties or whatever.
    Small things like these are red flags.

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  • derpyderp
    9 years ago

    The poor bastard's smitten & probably inexperienced with girls!
    Either tell him he doesn't have to be like you to have you, as opposites attract or if you're not that into him then ditch him.

    He'll be hurt if you ditch him but better off in the long run...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thank you so much!

      Yes, he is not very experienced with girls.

      I will tell him he doesn't have to be like me to have me.

      Thanks again!

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        No problems.
        When a guy is inexperienced it can be tempting to try EVERYTHING possible to impress her, even though it often comes across as desperate & clingy.
        Sounds like that's exactly what he's doing...

        If you like him, & it sounds like you do, just reassure him that you like him for himself & he shouldn't try to change for you.
        Unfortunately some guys can't help it but I hope it works out for you both!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    Another example. He was taking about stomach pains he was having so I referred to it as tummy cramps. Now he is no loner using words stomach and pain but instead tummy and cramps. Lol

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I have to assume you are both guys? It would be pretty silly for a guy to copy a girl, as a way to impress her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No. I am a girl

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Then you have just entered into the twilight zone. One very, very odd boy.

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