How to be "thick skinned"?

I cry watching the commercial for "The Lion King" (love that cartoon) The point is... I cry over everything! This is okay, except I get hurt and offended really easily. I would really like to learn to be more "thick skinned" how do I toughen up so I can better cope with life? When people put me down I can't handle it. I would like to improve! HELP!! from all you toughies please?

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  • Mindy

    - don't take things too seriously. learn to laugh at life, giving the humorous flip to things will go a long way in keeping you sane under stress. also when you realize how little many things actually matter in the grand scheme of things, you stop investing so much energy into them. you'll look back after the years and be like "i was getting worked up over THIS?" or "it was stupid that i even cried because of that jerk."

    - don't take things too personally. people say mean things all the time. they probably don't even care that much about it, nor do they care about you, so why should you either. there's this quote..."what other people think of you is none of your business." in other words who is the one living your life? you. so why the hell should you care what other people think if they aren't the ones living your life or paying the roof you live under...

    - just don't CARE! learn to keep your cool and have hurtful things just 'fall off you' as if you had buttery hands. this takes discipline and leaving your feelings aside for a moment when you feel 'offended' about something...but just stop to analyze WHY you even feel offended in the first place, and remember that chances are it's probably not worth wasting the energy in. think over things rationally, calmly, and coldly, from a third-person point of view and as if you weren't the one being offended but a total stranger watching you. what would someone else think of your reactions? is that person being reasonable? is he or she exaggerating/being whiny or immature? does the world really care? it can be a little 'cruel' to see things in this way but if you can detach yourself from your feelings you might just end up realizing you are drowning in a glass of water.

    i don't know if this helps but i hope it does. good luck

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    • Thank you so much Mindy, your comment helped me a lot!

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  • dappled

    The best piece of advice I can give you is a piece of advice my grandmother gave me. If someone is mean to you, have a think about why they've done it. People generally aren't mean for no reason. It's jealousy, insecurity, or just plain sociopathy on their part. Either way, they're the one with the problem.

    Take nothing to heart. The meaner is always more wrong than the meanee.

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  • Angryblackguy

    Just be a robot and don't care about people not in a bad way though

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  • Ramit10

    Suck it up when someone make fun of you blow it off who cares what other people think of you

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  • LeinaBxtchh

    i dont think theres anything u could do

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  • Thank you everyone for your help!

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  • Don't expect others to live to the same moral, religious, and common-sense standards that you set for yourself. If you do, you will be disappointed and feel betrayed a lot in your lifetime.

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  • stayzz0

    It's part of who you are, will be tough to get rid of that trait. Try to embrace the fact that you wear your heart on your sleeve. It's a good thing.

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  • tori

    Let me know too! It really sucks.

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  • sadtruth

    Don't get sad, Get mad!

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