How to be in relationship with a girl who acts smarter than you

Ok so i'm in a relationship with this girl from bolivia. It was good for a while, but after a little bit she's really been getting on my last nerve. We both go to the same college, she's 23 and a junior, I'm 21 and a freshman. Long story, i just didn't attend college until i was 21 because i went to a retarted post secondary school. It's been bothering me because she has a higher GPA than me. I have a disability with learning and sometimes i feel that i can't learn new things let alone remember new concepts. But she on the other hand can do extremely well in school, and apparently, my university has a reputation of being easy! She gets mostly straight A's and a occasional B's. Its seriously getting on my last nerve. This year on my freshman fall semester, I was able to pull off A's & B's because my professors were "Nice" and gave me another chance to bring up my grades with assistance. My parents doubted me that i couldn't get A's and B's. I only got them because of the rare occasion of getting the second chance to bring them up with assistance. Her success is becoming an aggravation. This summer she's working in miami for the Embassy of Bolivia. I feel so stupid when around her, and the really messed up part is english isn't her first language, and she still makes me feel like a imbecile. I don't know what to do? I mean i like her, she's pretty and has a nice personality, its just at times, well to me, in my opinion, she can really make you feel stupid. I don't want to date a person who is smarter than me or that i can't feel confident with. When i'm around her, i feel so unconfident with school and with myself. She makes school look like a joke, while i struggle profoundly to maintain good grades which hasn't worked out my freshman spring semester. I could say that i had hard professors and also juggling 5 classes in total of 15 credits. But she has one of my hardest professor for another class the professor teaches and gets A's on her papers. This professor's class was the hardest class i had this last spring semester, and she grades like the devil, AKA Extremely hard. At times and feel like complete dung. I like her a lot its just my set backs and extreme aggravations with my issues of learning makes it a struggle to be happy.

Any advice? I just need some other peoples opinions on this one guys - Much appreciated! =)

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  • flutterhigh

    Since when do grades = intelligence?

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    • 100% agreed.

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      • flutterhigh

        100%? Yay! I got an A+!

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  • thinkingaboutit

    1) It's not her fault your not as apt.
    2) If she's belittling you for that, she's not that much of a catch.
    3) If she's not belittling you, and you just want to break up with her b/c you feel inferior, you're not that much of a catch.
    4) School shmool. I'm sure you're better at a bunch of other things.

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    • Its_Called_Love

      Well said.

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  • Justsomejerk

    You can get her an "I'm with stupid" t-shirt for Christmas.

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  • crimsonSunset

    Listen, what you wrote here you should discuss with her too. You will never find a couple having equal success+failure on life. Any1 must be 49% and another 51%, its never 50%-50% distribution between them.

    Accept the reality. I do not want to tell you to be dashingly smart or something else or brilliant. Remember, you are a human being, so if anyone want to be with you then she should accept what/how you are. Otherwise the relation is not supported from my point of view.

    Be yourself, tell her you want to be with her but she has to accept you wholeheartedly. If she agree then fall for her, otherwise just move on before you hurt you too much in future with too much expectation from a relationship.

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  • iEatZombies_

    It's fine that you feel insecure, but that's not her fault. You shouldn't go off breaking her heart because you're feeling inadequate. If you choose to anyway, make sure she knows you're being selfish and she will be happier without a selfish person. She's not rubbing your face in anything, you are.

    This comment is based on the idea that she's never belittled you, as you didn't state such in your post.

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  • Just keep kicking the bitch in the ASS,sooner or later she'll learn how to behave.

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  • GuessWho

    If anything, this type of competition is good for you as it encourages you to try harder so you can keep up with her.

    Different people as also good at different things. No reason to stress at her being better on a given subject.

    As long as she's not treating you like shit for it, I don't see a problem.

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  • Yeah but she's a girl so you know she's not smarter. So why do you care? Also do you both have nostrils?

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    She does not act better than you. You are simply jealous you know she is better than you. Everything I read is she might be a bit smarter but it seems you are the one making a big deal out of it not her. You really need to get over yourself. So you are not smarter than your girlfriend. Does it matter? If she still loves you she still loves you. Stop being so fucking jealous that someone happens to be better than you. Makes you come off as a jealous/insecure bookbindery/girlfriend. You should break up with her. SHE IS TOO GOOD FOR YOU.

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  • whiteshirt

    I got that feeling with a guy I like, but he treats me nicely and praises me. Even I know he's more smarter than me (you know he's even just high school graduate and I'm bachelor degree). So it's a matter of your confidence. Find something that you're good at (she's not) and do the best on it, so you will feel more confident.

    Well, intelligence can't be measure only by grades (for this I agreed with flutterhigh). Sometimes good grades can't guarantee to have a good solution for life.

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  • cookiesaregreat

    It sounds to me like you are just feeling insecure. It can be frustrating to be in a relationship with someone who is 'more intelligent' than you are. Just don't let it get to you, is my advice. A person can also not necessarily be smarter than you are, but still make you feel stupid. Plus what is already said above, grades don't equal intelligence.

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  • Infxmous

    Im in a similar situation but from the other side. My boyfriend isnt dumb, hes very clever and witty but i just happen to be more educated particularly in history and science. Because i know about these things and they are a part of my thought process, i often make references to them and he often says i make him feel dumb etc which is never my intention! I dont believe im smarter than him at all, i just happen to know a lot of things he doesnt know about. If he finds that intimidating its not my fault. Im never condenscending towards him about it, but i cant help but talk about things in reference to what i know. I want to have conversations about important things and ideas and it doesnt seem fair to me that i have to shut up because of his insecurities. If shes not being condenscending to you then you need to look past yourself and just have a good time with her rather than making it some kind of competition. Just because youre the man in the relationship doesnt mean you have to be the one who has all the answers while she has none. Thats why its a relationship, youre supposed to work together, not be her father.

    If shes mean to you about it and brings you down then you deserve better! No one should have to put up with that..

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  • SheepLovingLady

    It's not her fault if she's smarter, so unless she's actually saying "I'm smarter than you, you big dummy!" then I think you're being unfair. Some people are naturally ridiculously intelligent, while some of us have to work harder to get to where we want to be in life. It'll be more satisfying for YOU to graduate because you've had to work so damned hard. :)

    [By the way... If she is saying that she's smarter than you (or something to that effect) then walk away because that's just mean.]

    At the end of the day, she can't help the fact you have learning disabilities and she doesn't. You should just be proud that a smart, pretty girl with a nice personality picked YOU out of all others. So just stop worrying, stop comparing, and keep up the hard work at university. It WILL pay off. Be happy! :)

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  • sassafrassi

    I skimmed it but from what I got out of it dump her. You don't deserve her you sound like an ass. Go find a dumb girl and be happy. It's not her fault you are insecure. Psh!

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  • I think you need to try to work it out / talk to her about it but if you aren't happy then break up.

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  • TheManagеment

    lmao you sound like a girl yourself

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