How strange is it that i like being treated like a child in bed?

Firstly, I'm a lesbian, which is worth mentioning because this proclivity is somewhat less common among female homosexuals than straight women. I'm a fiercely competitive and scholarly person, and my intelligence is integral to my self-worth. The anomaly here is that I'm extremely turned on by women who are significantly smarter than I am, even though I simultaneously detest the feeling of degradation. I'm reluctant to admit it, but I'm seldom attracted to a person who couldn't run rings around me. On a similar note, I find being patronized as if I'm a stupid, naive child both titillating and oddly comforting. Although this is a stark deviation from the fantasies of other women who have preferences that are practically identical to mine, outwardly vindictive and derogatory remarks don't do anything for me if they're aggressive. Humiliation veiled in tenderness and sweetness does. I was pressured to discard puerile behaviors before I even hit puberty and my parents were always incredibly aloof, which might explain— but not necessarily justify—my fascination with being treated like a dependent little girl.

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Based on 34 votes (24 yes)
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  • riffraffy

    Modern feminism sure did a number on you. You need to realize that being submissive isn't bad or wrong or a fetish, but normal and healthy for a woman to be. 'Submissive' seems like a bad word and 'dominant' a good one, but the truth is they are both neutral.

    You also need to realize that we humans are not rational creatures, even though we like to pretend we are. You want to be dominated, and the intelligence of you or your partner doesn't mean jack.

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  • Tealights

    Sounds like you want someone to playfully patronize you. It's normal, no worries. I'm sure you can find someone like that somewhere, but you'll have to figure out a safe balance between playful and abusive.

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  • Ellenna

    I've voted normal even though I believe this is a form of masochism with which I can readily identify. Many strong women (myself included) find being strong and competent exhausting and seek relief in opportunities to be the "weaker" party sexually, at least some of the time.

    What you describe sounds as if it has a large nurturing component, which we all know women generally do much better than men. This seems very normal to me, especially if you didn't experience this as a child. I find your use of the word "puerile" interesting: that sounds like your parents' judgment of a normal child's need for tenderness and sweetness: normal, not puerile!

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