How soon isn’t too soon?

This is too soon. Though smart, there are many things that can strain your relationship at this early stage. I would say at least a time period of six months is necessary before you do anything together.

I moved in with my now husband after 12 weeks. We didn't mean to do it so soon, there was an unexpected issue for one of us that meant a very temporary solution was one staying with the other. And now here we are donkey's years later happily married with children and a mortgage. But we both had live in relationships before, both lived in flats on our own already and both had the money to move out independently if we needed to.

I don't think that there is a right time, you can move in together whenever you want. But I think the longer you can wait the better. It sounds like you two are young and haven't lived with a partner before, which makes me think you should wait even longer. If you end up breaking up when you live together it's fucking hard. And depending on your financial situation one or both of you may not be able to afford to move out during the break up, and then you're really up shit creek without a paddle. Makes you feel trapped.

Just make sure if you do move in together that you have enough money to look after yourself just in case of the worst.

I would only marry between 1.5 - 2.5 years of dating. Long enough where we dont pretend to be someone we are not around them. Also being comfortable enough to fart in thier presence. That's a good judge.

I moved in with my old man at 3 months. We've been together 5 years now.

lmao come back to this post in 1 year

If you hear not much else, PLEASE HEAR THIS. You NEVER really KNOW someone until you move in with them. One of you might be a light sleeper, the other night snore like a freight train. He might have been raised to think Women DO ALL the house work. He may never wash a dish or never cook dinner for you for a change. When he showers, does he leave a small lake on the bathroom floor or is he a gentleman and cleans up his own mess. Things toconsider, and you may think"that's ok I will deal with it". NO-DEAL WITH IT BEFORE you are in a situation where you end up hating the very sore of each other. It's not a matter of to soon, it's more of how well you know each other. Best of luck in the decisions you make.

I voted "too soon," but only because your situation doesn't sound very dire or time-sensitive. Really I'm with SwickDinging on this one. I once asked a girl - who is now my wife of 10 years - to move in with me just 2 weeks after we had met. She was graduating college and had no plans or wherewithal for staying in town. It was that or goodbye.

I had been through a divorce, I had experienced life with a difficult roommate, and I figured what's the worst that could happen? Another shitty living situation and another bad breakup. Big deal. Should I let fear of these things wreck what might turn out to be something special?

Only you can decide whether this is necessary, and whether you are mature and calm enough to handle matters gracefully if it goes to hell. But if you've got a good thing going, and not doing this puts that thing at risk? In matters of love, do not be ruled by fear.

One thing is certain, though: No one else gets a vote. Only the two of you.

Dont act like lesbians be normal gaybies

We cannot honestly say we know someone until we have lived with them. It could be three months or three years of being friends but we do not fully "know" someone until we have lived with their good AND bad habits.

You have to decide for yourselves when the right time is.
Unless your relationship is like a lot of millenials where it is done mostly over the web, you two should know each other well enough to know if living together would be feasible.

The first thing you two need to figure out is what rules you each have. Things like -

What about pets?

What about when one of yours or his acquaintances and three of THEIR acquaintances needs a place to stay and wants to move in for "a couple of days" (for free)? I told my room mate that she is NOT to bring her own house guests to live.

Others trying to move in would be my biggest concern. Of course people seldom travel alone when looking for a place to freeload. At first it is jut them but then here comes the parents or kids, the brother who just got out of prison, The sister who got kicked out of her home for being pregnant (again),

Yeah before moving in, you two need to sit down and have a serious chat about expectations, rules, etc. There is no "I" in team.

Its not too soon. Moving in is a great way to test a relationship. It will either make yall or break yall.

If you want to, just do it.

It is a smart move financially, and it's good if you guys think you'll want to be together long term. But it does seem too soon. Maybe you guys should talk about any potential habits that could make things difficult before moving together? Think about things like someone being a lightsleeper or having to tolerate someone who snores. Think about upkeep of your home too. Like would you be upset about the divide of chores and cleaning? Do you need the place to look a certain way to feel happy with it? Just take things like that into consideration before you make the choice, and maybe more time to get to know one another.

Personally, I'd wait til the six month mark. If things are still going good then I'd consider it. Still early in your relationship