How should i handle my ex moving to another country if i'm pregnant?

So here is a little background, my ex and I were not together for long, only 4 months. We had worked together about a year though. He pursued me and at first i wouldn't go out with him, but after months, I agreed. He was so sweet and seemed to have his head on straight. I have had my fair share of heartbreak in the past, but I thought he was different. When I met him, he told me about his life, how he goes to Honduras to teach, and had been there a couple times. When we first started dating, I asked him if he planned to go back and he said no. I wouldn't have gotten into a relationship with someone if they planned on leaving later. So we dated for 4 months, worked together, we were together all the time, everyday. I loved him even though I didn't tell him, nor him me. But it felt like we were on the same page. The night before New Years, he came over and told me that he was offered a teaching job in Honduras, his exact words were "it's good news, but bad news for us", I don't know what to do, I'm miserable when im not with you". I of course, cried and cried and I didn't look at him because my face was buried in a pillow, I heard him cry a little too. I asked him to leave. The next day I was so upset, I drank a whole bottle of wine. He came over to talk to me but I freaked out on him, not even remembering what I had said. That night, he removed/blocked me from Facebook and when I asked why, he said I keep calling him but he will unblock me when he can. I tried calling him the next day when I sobered up to apologize but he wouldn't return any calls or texts. That was New Years day. I never heard anything from him and then I found out on the 6th that I'm pregnant, told him and told him I won't keep it. I had the pregnancy confirmed at the doctor yesterday (the 8th) and told him to call me because we should talk about it. Well, here is how the conversation went down. I told him that after thinking about if for a couple days, I may keep the baby. I told him im on the fence. And needed more time to to think. He said "are you sure you want to have a baby at 35?" I laughed and said my age has nothing to do with it. Then he said "well are you sure you want to raise a baby alone?" It just said I didn't know. He asked if we could talk about it but I really don't want to see him. After ignoring me and acting like I didn't exist or matter, then not calling to see how I was after finding out about it, he has the nerve to talk in his sweet voice asking if I wanted to do something like that alone. It angers me, how he thinks he can try to talk in a nice voice and admit he will not be there so he doesn't sound like a bad guy for doing it. I am confused and angry at him, he doesn't seem like the person I knew. I thought he was trustworthy anyway. I have to make a decision but am I wrong to be angry at his decisions? Am I wrong to think he's a jerk for still moving away after all of this?

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  • pastor_of_muppets

    When you make decisions while you are angry, chances are that it will likely be bad decisions.
    Don't stone me to death for saying this...but I don't think you are mature enough to raise a child on your own.
    If your post didn't mention you were 35, I could've sworn you are probably 18...and a half.

    You have a decision to make.

    The guy: throw him away, he is as spineless as his limp penis.

    The baby: if you keep it, it will only to get back at him. I am certain of it. if you don't keep it, you will hate yourself.

    You: are you familiar with the story of Jack and the beanstalk? You should eat those beans.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Yes is normal for you to think this guy's a jerk, because he really is a jerk. Whatever you decide to do about this crisis pregnancy do it for yourself because he's obviously unreliable. Even if you raise a child by yourself it doesn't mean you can't sue him for child support when he gets back in the States.

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  • Mary07

    He is a jerk for walking out on u and u pregnant wit his kid u could say he a dead beat dad he basically telling he don't want nun to do wit u or the baby

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  • CheyChey

    The guy is a jerk and if I were you I would remove him completely from the situation then ask myself this, do I really want to keep this baby and if in your heart you want to then do it. Don't base your decision on what this guy does or what he says he will do because if you do that you'll end up hating yourself since any decision you make is irreversible. At 35 you can raise a baby and leave a fulfilling life as a single mother or you can get rid of it but I've heard abortion is not something you recover from. Good luck, truly.

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  • Spiriteverywhere

    He's never coming back though. He's moving there for life.

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