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I'm not super religious, and I understand anyone's choices and beliefs. I know many religions believe in abstinence from sex until marriage. But in today's day and age, do you really think it's realistic??
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It's a nice idea to think that something special has only ever occurred between you and the person you have chosen to spend your life with but I think it's incompatible with our current sense of morality.
It can be done. I see it as practicing self control. I respect people with self control.
The vast majority of people still have use of their hands and can pleasure themselves all they want, so I honestly don't understand why everyone's so eager to have sex with another person. On the subject of incompatibility, you should have already talked about sex, masturbating, fetishes, interests, etc. before you got married. Bam, problem solved... in my mind, at least.
I don't know, maybe I'm just a naive virgin. Yes, waiting is old fashioned, but that doesn't make it bad. Most likely it's the people who don't communicate that mess up their abstinence-before marriages in most cases.
I think it's unrealistic and even dangerous.
What if you only find out after the deed has been done that your husband/wife is impotent, terrible in bed and unwilling to learn or gay, or that you two aren't sexually compatible?
The result is unhappy relationships that lead to what society considers cheating, and then divorce if you two can afford it...
Having said that, you need to be able to ask yourself if you're mature enough to have sex adn then experiment with yourself (Religion considers that a sin too, but thats its own fault!)
I plan to save myself until marriage. There are tons of sexual activities you can still do and honestly, it feels right to save myself. I'm not virgin-like, I am pretty kinky but I'm totally against sex before marriage. Some of the men I've dated were fine with that, some were also saving themselves and there were a few that couldn't tolerate it. I say it's better to save yourself but if you have to do it..just stay safe!
Yes I believe sex should be a thing generally done out of love.However sex before marriage seems more unrealistic because waiting perhaps till maybe your 30's to have sex is long time to hold out, for someone you "might" marry and still be a virgin.
A person should engage in sexual activities after marriage.
He should be responsible for what is he doing and married person is really a responsible person.The couple who do illegal sex or sex without proper marriage are not responsible for their acts.This not only affect their lives but also the lives of the offspring or their children.When a child asks his or her mother who is his father then mother has no answer except shame and disappointment.A human being is not an animal.Do sex after a proper marriage otherwise abstinence is better.
Lol what? A human being is not an animal?
Animalia
Chordata
Mammalia
Primates
Hominidae
Homo
Sapiens
No! You should of sung him,
You are a human animal
You are a very special breed
You're the only human animal
Who can think
Who can reason
Who can read...
True. Not a matter of opinion but a scientific fact. Glad you posted it.
it's as realistic as you want to make it.
you don't have to put out just because someone else gets bitchy about the lack of sex
Of course it's unreasonable. Marriage is just a false social institution created by nutter clerics in the dark ages to ensure treaties between monarchs if medieval European city states like Aquitaine and Genoa.
not realy, I mean I f you are willing to wait and you find a good partner who is too, then good for you. but in tnis day and age good look finding one.
I don't think abstinence should be taught to kids, because inevitable they are going to have sex so you might as well prepare them.
what ever I've broken that rule a while ago.
I met a guy who was abstinent, he just looed like weido to me.
especialy cristians, islamic people I understand.
Every normal person whether male or female has desire of sex. it is a natural desire and should be fulfilled in a natural way.The natural way is marriage or proper wedding.The marriage is a sacred relation that held responsible both parties morally and socially.
I am a medical student and i know that a man is a higher animal but here i am not teaching all of you biology.I am talking about ethics.Without ethics and moral values no society can flourish.Lower Animals are free to perform or do sex and it is their nature.If both do the same thing then what will be the difference between a man and an animal.?
The thing that separate us from the lower animals is that we think,we all have a thinking brain.We think and decide what is right and what is wrong.We all have emotions and feelings but we know how to control it.That is what the lower animals lack but it is not their fault because it is their nature.That is how the creator creates his world.If a hen has a thinking brain then it was possible that she wouldn't lay eggs and one can think or imagine other examples of that kind too.
When a person doesn't liked to be called a lower animal then he or she must abstain from doing things that lacks the moral values.
I agree with you partialy.
you can't say that marrige is natural because it was creatide by humans.
if you strip the concept to the core(in my culture at least)
it's the union between two individuals linked by love to provide an insurance fo potential kids.
one of the most unique things about humans is the varaiety in social structure, if you take an Indian and a new yorker think how diferent their life stiles are. take a woulf from india and one from america and little changes.
this is the diference between culture and nature,
out human nature is our desire to seek social gain (hierarchy), to find a partner, to procreate, to help other individuals even with out personal gain,to be in the company of others ecc. marrige is not one even thow marrige exists in most cultures it varies immensly: methods of celebration, motives (they can be politica, economica, procreational, compensation of one of the families, poligamy ecc.
and how do you define marrige? must it be proclaimed by the pastor\rabbi\shaman (ecc) or by the leader of the social groop or by the famelies of the cupple??
then not all culture have marrige, (yes some ancient ones don't realy).
even emotional expressions are more the same beetween cultures than marrige (we all smile to say we are happy,don't we?)
moral of the story
marrige=man made
smiling=nature
marriage is man made according to your opinion i agree.now i am extrapolating your point.
lets take an example of traffic signal.Any person belonging to any culture or society know what is the meaning of red and green lights.Red means to stop and vice versa.Imagine if i violate the signal then what will happen.Simple an accident.not only an accident but i have to face legal penalties too.
Assume for a moment that red and green signals are nature(you used the word smiling) and the rules i.e when to stop and when to walk are man made.Both are complementing each other.Rules are made to make the life simple.When we don't follow the rules we make our lives complex with our own hands.
it is not because we belong to different societies.It is what are we following a proper guideline or not.As i said earlier,what you do is not a standard.What we do is we make our desires the reference standards and hate to see beyond it.
I am not criticizing anyone .Read my comments in the same spirit as i have written it.
Don't argue with me try to understand me.
I used smiling because It is a natural impulse, your red-green traffic light thing is a lerned signal, I can prouve it with the fact that in italy (i live there) instead of green we used to use blue, we swiced to green because it was mor understandable for foreners. but I'm a bit confused... I don't quite understand the connection between, traffic lights and marrige standards.
'I met a guy qho was abstinent, he just looed like a weido to me. especialy cristians' I won't even go into the spelling but the fact that you call someone who believes something you don't a 'weido' is pretty idiotic and judgemental. Oh but you understand islamic people wanting to be abstinent, yeah that makes so much sense. Explain to me why you think it isn't weird for Islams to be abstinent but it is weird for christians?
I had sex with identical triplets. Now I'm havin' trouble findin' out who my baby pa is!!!
I think it is okay to have sex before marriage. I am 19 and married. I have been with my husband for 3 years and married for 1 year. We started having sex like two weeks after we started dating. And no I'm not a slut. I think it just really depends on the person. If you are ready for sex and are mature enough to deal with sex, then go for it. But if you aren't ready then wait until you get married. I think that in this day and time, sex is a part of everyday life for almost everybody, married or not. It always has been but more now than ever. I have been having sex since I was 14. It was just something I wanted to try and I loved it and wanted more.
Laws of nature can never be changed with the will of a person.Neither I nor you make the sun to arise from the west when it arises from east as it is law of nature.Whoever tried to break them break him or herself.
Similarly the marriage is also the natural way to fulfill your sexual desires.
You said it is normal then tell me if u do illegal sex at night and on the very next day that person refuse to even recognize or owe you then what will you do?
If a woman do sex with more than one man then how will be the father of the born child?
how is a man made social-civial, contract natural??
you are starting to get annoying
good choice of words,(I'm impressed panda, usualy i'm the one to use smart words hehe) I'm gonna use them.
but I'm my own person not a sheep.
plus what part of the world do you live in to make sex only afther marrige standard? most people where I live woud laugh at you where i live.
just to be clear I'm not suggesting we should all loose controll and have some orgie, that would be stupid.
I think it's ok if that is what you want, but very few people would make it.
Ok I just want to say something not to offend you ok
Abstence is total horse shit it's just to make shure kids arnt fucking they made me get one I broke that bitch 5 years ago Im 20 I don't give a fuckin shit my gf dosent ever want to get married untill 30 I'm not gona date somebody with no fuckin sex sense we are both old enough both want to FUCK A RETARDED RING IM HORNY