How much does it bother you when someone doesn't respond to your texts

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I have a friend who sometimes doesn't respond to my text messages. And it bothers me so much when she does that. I will ask her a question and there would be no reply. And then she will text me a question about school without responding to my texts. I will get anxiety and find it hard to concentrate thinking that she is somehow mad at me or upset with me or that she will not be my friend anymore. I was wondering if I'm being overly sensitive in this situation.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    This would bother me...
    id write back asking if she saw my first text...to make sure they reseave it...if they did I be like why the hell didnt you answer my question before asking me yours ...

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    It does bother me somewhat. I'll sometimes get self conscious and wonder if they thought my response to their text was boring, useless, or stupid. Strange thing is the self consciousness goes away pretty quickly and I wind up shrugging it off and moving on.

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  • ※◎InsecureFeline◎※♨
    9 years ago

    Do the same to her, never reply to her text even if one day she ask for help or desperately in need. .Then, she'll understand how's the feeling of being ignored and she will realize her stupidity of ignoring you . .serves her right.

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  • CalciteQueen
    9 years ago

    If she expects an answer from you without providing an answer for you - she can go fuck herself with that attitude.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I really don't care. I only feel bothered if I have plans with somebody and they flake without informing me, because they wasted my time.
    Honestly, I am guilty of not responding at times. Usually it is because I was in the middle of something when they called or texted and I simply forget to respond later.
    If the message lacks important contact I may forget. The point of texting is to answer at your own convience. I don't see how it's a big deal to anyone. People have accused me of being rude by not responding right away, but personally I think it's rude for someone to expect me to drop whatever I am doing to respond to them whenever. It is not my job to be on call to anybody's needs.

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    It's according to who it is not responding

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  • KeddersPrincess
    9 years ago

    Not at all. I just feel relieved. Finally, I can get some rest!

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    Texting is a convenience only. There is obviously cause to respond with some promptness when it's about something important or time sensitive, but I don't like texting enough to take it seriously anywhere else.
    I pretty much agree with what bugsforbreakfast said.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    This problem is all in your head. Accept that she doesn't always reply. Not because she hates you, but because she does not always reply. Once you figure that out, you will be much happier. You know why?

    because sometimes people don't reply to text messages.

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  • WeirdMe
    9 years ago

    since no one talks to me, i never have to wait for an answer.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      Boom! I'm talkin to ya, baby. So, what's up?

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      • WeirdMe
        9 years ago

        HAHA, thank you. You safed my life, because later i wanted to jump of the bridge and end my life. Now i will try to make the best out of it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    How I feel about this whole issue depends on who I'm texting with and what we're texting about. If one person in particular is consistently poor at responding to phone calls, text messages, emails and letters I tend to not take that person seriously at all.

    Unfortunately I have, at times been, the flaky person I've described above. I'm not proud of it, but no one's perfect. I guess I will have to add flaky procrastinator to my list of character defects. Blarg.
    :-(

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      What if that person not only did not respond to your texts, but also asks you a question without answering your question? Don't you feel like you've been slapped?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Well, unless it's a employer or educator I would tend to see that kind of one sided communication as a reason for me to ignore said person.

        I guess you could inform the person that you won't be responding to any of their queries until he or she answers your question or questions if you asked first. Don't budge when you set boundaries with people especially if they're high strung, entitled little narcissists.

        Sadly, we train many people how to treat us. Some people have a nasty habit of testing us to see how far we can be pushed. Often times the boundaries we have to set with some people are not conducive to friendship.

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        • RoseIsabella
          9 years ago

          P.S. Yes, I do feel like I've been slapped. People like that drain me then leave me feeling used and abandoned.
          :-'(

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          • shuggy-chan
            9 years ago

            That's weird, because after every time you drained me. I feel like cuddling. >;)

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    Depending on who I'm talking to nonplussed to self conscious but then I'm sometimes pretty bad at it too

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Honestly, I don't know. That's NEVER happened to me, not even once!

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