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If your partner went out and cheated on you, I know some people consider flirting a form of cheating. Would you forgive them?
| Yes I would, we're boyfriend/girlfriend | 27 | |
| No I wouldn't, we're boyfriend/girlfriend | 66 | |
| Yes I would, we are married | 19 | |
| No I wouldn't, we are married | 10 | |
| Only if I had cheated and not been caught first | 9 | |
| No I wouldn't, even tho I cheated on them beforehand | 6 |
This is one of those things where you think you know what you'd do, but when the time comes, you realize it's not so simple.
I also don't believe "always a cheater". Someone can make a mistake, realize it and be sorry for it and never want to do it again.
While I agree its tough to label "once a cheater, always a cheater". It most certainly would be close to being done with the person being cheated on, or at least should be.
That person would deserve another chance but they should get it with another person. If they made a mistake and realized it good for them, dont make it again with another person.
I wouldnt be able to forgive though. I dont blame people for mistakes, but you should always have to pay for them.
Agree. People make mistakes. Still, as you said, I myself honestly have no clue what I'd do. Hopefully I won't HAVE to be in that situation anyways. But, thigns could be different.
If I catch him sucking some hooker, or if he came to me and told me he cheated on me and he's sorry for what he did.
Hm. Tough thinking...
Agree. If I would really love them and can tell that they are really hurt for what they did, I would still be with them. If they are caught a second time, they are for sure a goner is what I say. You were the good person in the first place to give them a second chance anyways.
Depends who with, how many times, how far did they go, were we having an arguement, would she forgive me, were there any worthwhile excuses etc.
So many factors.
Flirting is not cheating, kissing, touching and sex are. And no I would never forgive my bf if he cheated, I'm not a forgiving type, he fucks up and that's done.
Depends on what you mean by "forgive". To forgive someone only means that you no longer hold resentment against them for their transgressions. It does not mean that you must stay in a relationship with them.
Have I forgiven a cheater? Yes. Did I stay with them? No. I will not remain in a relationship and have sex with a cheater. It's not worth the increased risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease. Why cling on to a dead relationship anyway? If they are cheating, they've pretty much given up on you. They don't love you. It's best to end it, and start fresh with someone else. Treat it as a learning experience. Life goes on.
Once a cheater always a cheater. Cheaters always cheat. I would never cheat on someone that is wrong.
Though people say "Always a cheater" isn't fair, i disagree. Once you get away with it once, im sure it would be easy to do it over and over. But no its really not acceptible.
my girl can sleep with whoever she wants....as long as i get to do the same :)
No, I've had to learn the hard way that once a cheater always a cheater. It's not worth your time, go out and try again.
cheat on me and your done no forgiving no nothing go I'll chuck your stuff on the lawn and you can hire someone to come get cause if they were to step on my yard it's time to lay charges
To me that is just the biggest something you don't do to someone you love
I've been cheated on and it sucks and to this day the few that have i still hate,I don't dwell onit but those that did cheat on me will never have that sin forgiven
threesome chicks? OMG.....come to my place!!!!!! yum :-) Of course, with three, you probably don't need me too much huh?! lol
My girl was kissing another girl right in front of me. I got jealous but not mad.
This is a tough question to answer with a generic answer since each person is different and has different levels of what they would tolerate and not tolerate in a relationship.
I would say it would be very difficult to forgive and move on for myself and any other self respecting person. If you dont have much self respect then mayby it would be easy to look the other way as in your head you have convinced yourself you "deserve" treatment like that. Perhaps you are convinced you arent "good in bed" so its logical for the other person to seek elsewhere to satisfy that need. Sounds stupid but many people probably find themselves in similar situations like this, or else so in love with one particular person they put up with abusive behavior for fear of losing that person.
Kids bring a whole other variable to the equation as well, staying together for kids is a very noble undertaking and something I would consider doing if I found myself in that situation. But if I wasnt married or was married without kids and my partner cheated on me it would be over. I just wouldnt be able to be intimate anymore, I would constantly think / picture my partner with the person they cheated on me with.
We are not naturally monogomous so I would forgive her. I can separate sex from love and would really like my marriage to be open to this.
I think its hard to anwser this question until it happens to u,everyone different.I alway said I ll never be with someone who cheated on me.I was with my girl and after 3yrs she cheated on me.Its took me 3 months to get pass it. Now we been together 5 more year after that,so you never really know. Last thing flirting is not cheating,it wrong but not cheating.
Sometimes after years of being together and shared responsibilities u can get stuck with someone who cheated but if the trust is gone u shud really get out even if it's hard. U need trust and respect to make a relationship a cheater doesn't respect you enough and u can't trust them so why stay?
I will keep her like a bitch with me thruout my life and fuck around with busty hotties...
Hell no. It's like with sharks; once they get a taste of human flesh, they won't stop hunting down people in the ocean and it's the same thing here. I was actually rooting for Glenn Close when I saw Fatal Attraction, and I am what you'd call a Michael Douglas fan!
i don't know but i know from experience that love and fidelity don't necessarily go hand-in-hand.
Girl, you don't need to cheat, I am here for you. You know I had this problem once, I got over it. You know what I did? I brought a red wig.
Hell no. If I give my word to someone that we'll be monogamists together, then that's the way it'll be. But to break that trust is going too far. I may forgive them as time goes by, but by then I would've already moved on. But to forgive them and stay in the relationship... no.
They cheat once, they'll do it again. They abuse once, they'll do it again. And even if it hasn't happened twice, I wouldn't want to stay and wait for it to happen.