How many deaths are one to many?

Ok so i always thought i had the perfect family.However this changed in 1994 when my grandpa(moms father) slipped on ice and cracked his head open causing him to die. I didnt understand back then, so i wasnt entirely sad. Then things got worse. After 9/11 everybody under the sun was devistated.alittle less then a month later my other grandpa(my dads father)died of a stroke. I could not beleive got took him away i was just starting to cope with NYC we went to his wake & everyone was supportive. My aunt tried making me laugh alot.NOW HERES SOMETHING DISTURBING. Just a week later that same aunt(moms sister) of mine, ended up having a brain anurism leaving her 12 year old and her nine year old behind. We actually watched her die in the hospital. I remember seeing my 9 year old cousin on top of the hospital bed screaming for her mom to wake up.ok so my grandma was a busy bee, she was the strongest woman i knew,except she forgot to tell us she had cancer and out of nowhere she died. Leaving my mom to have abosultely no family but her kids. I didnt even get a chance to say good bye to her. It was aweful. After my grandma died,i figured thats got to be it. Noone else is going to die.NOPE I WAS WRONG. Just two years later, my uncle herman who was a great man passed away on christmas eve(How lovely) it was so sad. I think the next one beats all of them. my friend and this other boy went out driving late. since noone was on the road they went alittle fast, but the car went out of control and they ended up crashing. my friend was injured very bad, but his friend died on impact. I remember going to the funeral and listeing as his parents talked about what a good kid he "was" how they "loved" him. Them using all those past words just made my cry so hard. to watch parents lose a child just killed me inside. The summer or 2010, my favorite teacher died of cancer. she was such a strong woman, she was alittle fearful, but strived to fight it. however she coudlnt and the whole school ended up going to her funeral. it was actually not as bad as the other ones but still it was sad. Now its 9/29/10 at like 2 am. My grandpa(dads step dad) just died two days ago. I am in total shock. he was such a healthy man. he did his exercises and ate healthy. He was physically and enternally at the age of about 45. Out of nowhere a virus got into his heart and attacked it. THis made him have to go to the hospital to wait for a transplant. He was doing great untill, he started bleeding in brain out of nowhere.They tried everything but they couldnt stop it, and he passed away. The thing is, he was compeletly fine, he never had a health problem. it just didnt make sense. WHen i saw him in the hospital the night before he died, he said he couldnt wait to go home so he could take his grandkids to the candystore. It just breaks my heart to know that he wont be alble to. so my question isnt is this normal, but more like is this fair? is this fair for a 19 year old to see so much death?