How long will it take me ? : (

About a year and a half ago, I was raped at a party. I've told people about it but it took me a very long time to even tell anyone. Now, i can't sleep on beds that have flower sheets on them bc it reminds me of my rape or the smell of beer reminds me of it and cologne and whatnot. Even with my boyfriend i can barely make it through kissig him without freaking out and screaming. I also have to sleep with the lights on now and can't go anywhere alone even to a school bathroom because I am so afraid. Is this normal? How long will it take this to go away?

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  • im so srry wat happened 2 u. if u dont hav any pets u should get one cuz they help with trama and depression. any kind of pet that fits u will b ok. even reptiles! i suggest a kitten or a puppy cuz thats when they r most playful. and as they get older they can sense ur feelings better. good luk 2 u! :v

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  • BirdyMojo

    First of all, I am so sorry that happened to you :( But they have certain therapists for these types of problems, it will take a while to recover from though. Best of luck to you :(

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  • So sory. :*(

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  • Honey111

    U poor thing :'(

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  • avatardude9883

    aww i have something like that I'm scared to be alone someone broke in and i stay alone in my room i have catuses in my yard and my yard is by my window i also keep my door close and my closet and it was a year ago but i think u should do the same

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  • Nytingale

    It sounds like you might be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. It can take years and years to get over without help so you should definitely see someone to help you work through what you are experiencing.
    Also always rememeber it was not your fault. It doesn't matter where you were or what you were wearing no one and I mean NO ONE has the right to violate you like that.

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  • MercedesBenz

    Maybe ask the school counselor if there is a youth counselor or therapist you can start seeing.

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  • rushline

    I'm so sorry to hear I think you should get a support group with your family and maybe a counsoler wish I could help more

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  • grumpybarbie

    Yes, has he been charged? You do need to see someone for help. There is no set time to feel better or safe, it will happen in your own time. You will get through it, stay strong Hun .

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  • One of my friends was raped when they were 14 now she is 16 and she is basically back to normal she's trusts me she saw a consuler and she said it helped

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  • haha123

    Thats awful..see a therapist..i really feel
    Bad for you ...have you ever considered
    Telling the police on the man who raped you..unless you dont know who he is...and if it makes you feel more safe maybe you could get an alarm system?

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  • Lizbit

    You went through something terrible. It will take time to work through it all. Try to find a therapist to help you.

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  • radishbobby84

    well what's happining is a huge loss of trust your justyaking that loss of trust out on other people not just that rapest dude I'd talk to somebody who you trust the most that has better advice

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  • haleypoo

    See a therapist :/

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  • munchie420

    It shouldn't take that long. It's rough but you gotta get back to your own life, letting it affect you that much is exactly the wrong thing to do. Or maybe try to not tell everyone this just so they'll feel sorry for you.

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    • Thorolf

      Fucking degenerate.

      But on a serious note, that was highly insensitive.

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