How long should you wait to date again after a break up?

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So I was just wondering how long do people usually wait to date again after a recent break up?

a few weeks 13
a few months 11
1 year 7
a few days after the break up 4
it depends 41
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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    There is no one answer, no 'should' or 'shouldn't'.

    You wait as long as it feels right to.

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  • VirgilManly
    9 years ago

    Some folks don't even wait for the breakup. They just don't bother letting a relationship get in the way of their dating, unfortunately.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    When your over the ex.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    As soon as you feel comfortable doing so.

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    It's all up to the person and how strongly they felt over that person. There's no amount of average time to suggest but my rule of thumb is sort of like this:

    If you never spoke of marriage with them, didn't speak too much about your futures - you probably only need a maximum of 6 months.

    If you did speak about marriage with them/about your futures - you probably need a minimum of 6 months.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Fifty five and a half seconds. Don't wait any more than that. The more time you wait, the harder it will be. Like they say, get right back up on the horse, if you fall off.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      9 years ago

      Fifty five and a half? You can't be single that long or people will start to wonder what's wrong with you! I'd recomened running up to the first person you see after the break up and shoving your desperate tongue down their throat, regardless of their sex, age or marital status. That way you won't be a single loser :)

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I don't think it's as much about being "a single loser" as it is a matter of confidence and moving beyond the pain. I see no benefit from moping around, being sad, feeling sorry for yourself and rethinking what's gone.
        Any distraction beats sitting home alone, thinking that by being alone, you are punishing your ex or thinking they will feel sorry for you, because you are miserable.
        The very best revenge, if that's what one desires, is to be happy, move on and forget the ex.

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  • TheOneWhoComesFromEnordro
    9 years ago

    If it's a short-term relationship: 2-6 months
    If it's a long-term relationship: 1-3 Years

    But really, it's up to you.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    In my experience it took a long time to get over my long term relationship, though I dated someone within weeks of the breakup. The relationship I jumped into after my long term one was so rushed, we met eachothers family and friends and slept together and used pet names and said we loved eachother and stayed at eachothers places. This was all within a month of dating this person and we just started dating weeks after my breakup with my ex.

    It was too soon to be so serious that's why I realize now it was a rebound. So just be prepared most relationships right after a recent breakup won't be real. Just take your time and move on before you try to have a relationship with someone else.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    Never

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    • kingofcarrotflowers
      9 years ago

      Oh I misread it as get back together after a break up

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    It depends what you want out if your next dating experience. Honestly, sometimes a quick rebound can help, and I don't see the harm in it, as long as you are HONEST with the person you are dating about your intentions not to be serious. However, if your last relationship was long term, you might want to take some time to reflect on yourself and enjoy being single.

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