How long should you wait before having sex with a new partner?

First date 20
First week 5
Second - third week 11
One month 16
Two - three months 6
Four - five months 5
6 months 2
6 months - one year 4
One year + 4
Marriage 11
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Comments ( 21 )
  • Frosties

    You need to leave it until after you leave the restaurant. Who'd have thought we were going to get arrested for getting jiggy behind the ficus plant?

    No, seriously, I like to wait. Let the tension build. I'm never in a rush to get someone into bed. Those guys that are, I always think it looks like they're desperate to get the deal done so they can move onto the next conquest.

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    • Captain_Kegstand

      Ya I agree, wait till u leave the restaurant. Ill never be allowed back in that Chucky Cheese again!

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    • You said the ficus made it seem more like the jungle, tiger.

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      • Frosties

        Charlize Theron? You're here on IIN? Wow.

        Hey, I'm sorry I didn't call you back. I was in the hospital for weeks, getting ficus out of my tushus. :/

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    If you feel like you want to have sex with the person, think about it for a minute. If you don't feel like you will regret it, and you think you will still love yourself afterwards, go for it! Sex is a very fun and natural act and you should be able to feel when your ready! Sex is not a bad thing as long as you do it safely (condom, birth control, clean trustworthy partner, ect.)

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  • Avant-Garde

    Get to know them first. Wait for it, don't rush into things. Setting the limit until you're married wouldn't really work out, because the relationship might not make it to the level of marriage. I feel like a few weeks is too soon, for some reason. Perhaps, a month. It gives you time to learn about your lover and decide whether or not you can trust he/she.

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  • squirtle

    umm.. until you love that person or trust that person enough.. i don't think most people have a strict time period..

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  • Aleks85

    I'd be "willing" to wait several months for a good person.

    I've never had to wait more than 2 weeks.

    I'd like to say that's a good thing but I don't like sluts. I'd actually rather a girl make me wait. I guess I'm very old fashioned in my thinking.

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  • Riddler

    Till they put a ring on it?

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  • midnightear1500

    you should wait until your married but if you do not wait that long then give it about a couple months.

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  • nobodyspecial

    Most of my relationships have been on the first night, but some I have waited till she was ready. The ones I bedded on the first night were the relationships that lasted the longest

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  • ccjigsaw

    There should be an other option, cause it really depends on how into whoever it is you are

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  • Ibelievethis

    There's no right or wrong answer, you'll know yourself when the time's right. x

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  • Saycheese

    Time shouldn't matter on this part. It should be till you two know eachother well and know you two love each other then the right moment will come.

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  • disthing

    When it feels appropriate, the right moment. I think this depends on the couple. Some people take a while to become physically close, others start their relationship that way.

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  • NoraBaker

    There's no 30 minutes option? That's pretty much enough for a one night stand.

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    • anti-hero

      When is our date again? I keep forgetting.

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    • Captain_Kegstand

      30 min? Jeez if you're gonna go for it, take some time to slow down and enjoy it for a minute! lolz

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  • lc1988

    First week.

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  • Uzzie101

    For women it's whenever you feel comfortable enough.
    For men, it's whenever you can get it.

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    • Ibelievethis

      That's not always the case. I am women and sex has absolutly no emotional purpose for me at all I simply have sex whenever I can. x

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