How long in a relationship do you consider it to be long term?

I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 4 months, he considers it long term but I dont. Is this normal?

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Based on 35 votes (24 yes)
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  • Over 2 years.

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  • dom180

    I'd say around 1 year is long term, but I'm younger than most people here so 1 year is quite a large percentage of my life.

    I had an idea that a "long term relationship" could be equal to a certain percentage of your own age. I sat down with my calculator and tried to work out what a good percentage would be, but I can't really. I think there are too many factors; how long your previous relationships have lasted (if there were any), how fast your relationship has moved on (have you had sex, do you live together, are you married et cetera et cetera), what your expectations are/were... a relationship can be long term for one person and not for another.

    Words like "long term" often come with baggage like "serious" and "committed". While those often go together, there's no reason to presume they mean the same thing. I think a lot of people would tend to think (consciously or otherwise) about how serious and committed their relationship felt as opposed to how long it had lasted if they're judging how long term it is.

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  • NotAgain..

    10 years... But I can't see myself being strapped down for even a year with the same person

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  • woman1986

    I say time doesn't matter as long as you feel comfortabel with each other and in tune

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  • OswaldCobblepot

    1.618

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  • ccjigsaw

    I would think a year or more is long term

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    • PapzBSlim

      Same thoughts here. If it is sooner, I suppose the couple would have to be living together for at least 6 months.

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  • DudeUrFuglyXox

    after one year its pretty serious but i think maybe after 2 years is when you could call it long term

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    I feel like anything upward of a year could be considered long term. That's a lot of time to dedicate to someone if the relationship ends up not working out.

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  • dappled

    I'd agree with you on this one. I'd define long-term as 2.5 years and over (or shorter if you've made a commitment to stay together, such as getting engaged).

    It's all personal, though. I've got a friend who thinks two weeks is long-term.

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    • yeah as a teenager I thought 1 month was long term

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      • dappled

        Heh! My friend isn't a teenager. He just has an aversion to sleeping with the same person more than once.

        And yeah... I know. :)

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