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You must had been told when you were young, by your parents or anyone else that it is a sin to have sex before marriage or at least that it is wrong because it ruins others life, creates a havoc.
Then one day you lose your virginity. How it feels? It is great to do? Or just go for the best you can, marry, then it is alright.
| Good | 19 | |
| Bad | 3 | |
| Good at start, later regret | 5 | |
| Bad at start, later it's fine | 5 |
Left me feeling... Liberated. The reason I didn't have sex was because virginity was oh so special but whoops, now it's gone, now I'm free to explore the wonderful world of fucking and thus started my sexual experimentation phase... Naturally, I was 15 so people thought low of me but now? I'm the only one of them who isnt hoping that baby daddy will call. Because my Mom taught me about birth control and got me a script. I'm still on it. Sex need not be some dangerous mine field of confusion... A lot of parents disagreed with my Mom's decision and a lot of those parents are now grandparents...
After I had sex for the first time I left the house I was in slightly drunk and then masturbated behind a car at the thought of me having sex for the first time.
In high school I was always told to retain my virginity. My friends weren't virgins, but that's because they lost it to someone they loved so it was okay. I had been with my current boyfriend for about six months and ALL my friends told me it was still too early to lose it. I had a very, very high libido and from the moment I started dating this guy I REALLY wanted to sleep with him. We had a connection that made me feel extremely sexually attracted to him, which I had never felt before. I assumed I was asexual, because I never even thought of sex with other people. Once I met him it was like BAM, okay I want HIM! We were best friends at first and didn't start dating until a year after knowing each other.
I felt so pressured to not "mess up" and be labelled a slut by my peers, but a few days before prom I was like...you know what? FUCK IT! Or...fuck HIM, rather, hehe. I was SO tired of the bullshit I was being fed and I realized that my virginity was MINE to lose and not anyone else's. If my friends had a problem then tough luck, buttercup. So, I went over to his house that night and was like okay, let's do this. I felt so wonderful afterward, like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I was finally free from the mundane bullshit my friends were spewing and then I embraced my sexuality. It was the best decision I've ever made and I wouldn't change it at all.
Nobody EVER told me not to have sex before marriage or called it a sin. Not everyone is from the bible belt you know, some of us live in liberated free thinking countries thank god. You need to get with the times. I lost my virginity to someone I was in love with as that was what felt right for me. Others around me wanted to experiment with different partners which was what they wanted.
Virginity is special, in that your first time doing anything is special and anything involving sex is very emotional.
I look back fondly on my first time. It was with someone I cared for very much. We had been together for quite a few months, which I think was the right length of time for me.
My parents never told me it was a sin to have sex before marriage...Infact I don't recall any conversations with my parents about sex now that I think about it.
When I lost my virginity I was surprised. My whole teenage life people were telling me how amazing sex was, how great it feels the first time you have sex and so on. Well, time came for me and...I was disapointed.
When I first had sex I was surprised at how dull it felt. The only highlights of it was the things that weren't exclusively sexual. Tried multiple positions, different sex acts from oral to intercourse, yet nothing. I could still perform, don't get me wrong but I got very little to know pleasure from it, which surprised me. The person I lost my virginity to was experienced aswell.
So overall, losing my virginity was nothing special. If anything it was a disapointment as people had made it sound like the best thing ever and I am yet to have a sexual experience that matches their description. Perhaps I just need to involve different aspects of sexual activity other than the basic act of sex itself.
Meh. I went in to depth more than I probably should of but there it is. Now I'm off for a bath. ^_^
Intimacy makes sex great. Without it sex is just more like running. Just another physical activity.
Is that really accurate? I have no doubt that sex with someone you love or care about will make the experience better (although it's the opposite for me), however would you say that random sex results in very little to no pleasure from the act?
Genuine question. :)
I'm sure it does for some people but not so much for me unless I'm seriously, hard core attracted to them. But in my case, without any intimacy or emotion or at last powerful lust... Sex is really only just the act of rubbing one's genitals to anothers. Yeah, there's a measurable amount of physical pleasure but that's about it.
So aslong as you are physically attracted to them, you get more pleasure? I getcha. :)
...I just gotta say this...I got a thumbs down for asking you a question. I've noticed comments of mine getting thumbed down by one or two people even when I make a non-conflicting comment...Am I the only one noticing this or is there seriously a butt-hurt user on here stalking my comments just to thumb them down? >_>
Physically or emotionally attracted. I won't yield that emotional attachment to your sexual partner adds an element to sex that many would describe as "better" that just fucking someone to fuck.
And yes, Duz, I noticed that like two years ago, where the hell have YOU been?
Dude, I'm drunk and on my computer right now, has it occurred to you that we have been IIN friends since I was 20 after we got over our saiyan-like debating phase? Has it!?
NOBODY ever told me that, never!
Virginity is very unimportant in the scheme of things and pretty foolish to hold onto.
Only the most fucked up, brainwashed fool, would marry someone they had not had sex with.
More virginal marriages are the victim of cheating, because it is human nature to be curious, and being curious about what sex would be like with others, if one has only had sex with one, is the most normal curiosity.
"The fires of damnation await those who pull down their pants to fuck." This is how we control people with religion. We load them up with sexual anxiety and tell them Jesus is the answer. It's been working for centuries.
It hurt at first, but now, I enjoy having sex and I'm curious to try out various positions.
I was quite late in losing my virginity (20) and I must say I found the whole experience quite icky. I thought about all the love songs and thought to myself "meh".
Of course it got a lot better over the time and I had a quite a few great experiences at sex, though I found that the partner you were with and how you felt about them, made the sex either good or bad.
Like being still high from your first high and at your first Pink Floyd concert.
But the next morning walking around in public half asleep and half keeping a low gaze wondering if everyone can figure out what you were upto last night.
Don't be. I didn't see them either. Have seen too few artists actually :( I just have a bad habit of speaking in code/metaphors for no apparen treason.
Well...I saw Roger Waters In the Flesh tour back in '99. Does that count?!?!