How important is a car, when dating

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I want to get a car. But it's very expensive, and i don't have to travel far when commuting everyday.

However "Having a car" seems to be a desirable trait in a man (I'm a 19 male ). I hear people say it makes attracting women easier.

If you were dating a previous guy/girl who had a car. Would you ever go back to dating a 'car-less' person?

So is this true for men?
And is there any difference when it comes to women?

I'm male: A car is NOT important 22
I'm male: A car is important 20
I'm female: A car is NOT important 19
I'm female: A car is important 15
I'm female: A car is NOT important 6
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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    It kind of depends on your lifestyle. I am more impressed with someone who can get around without one. But I live in a town where that is feasible.

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    • shuggy-chan
      11 years ago

      maybe, but not feasible in most areas, and having your own vehicle shows more independence. opposed to a guy that always has to bum a ride, that shit is lame

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      • howaminotmyself
        11 years ago

        Being dependent on cars doesn't make you independent just because society forces us to be that way. When I say I am impressed by no cars, I mean no use of them - not just ownership. Bumming rides is pretty lame. But I know this isn't feasible in most areas, which is why I don't live in those areas.

        Also, riding a bike will give you a nice ass. :)

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        • disthing
          11 years ago

          Exactly.

          My ass is a finely chiseled rock.

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          • howaminotmyself
            11 years ago

            Good to know.

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        • robbieforgotpw
          10 years ago

          I pick my girlfriend up on my tandem bicycle and she helps to pedal. We ride to the convenience store and get free hot dogs (only the ones they're throwing out) and I buy her a drink of her own.

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  • ScooterNyne
    11 years ago

    It really depends on where you live. In my experience, having a car is of the utmost importance. Which I think is bullshit but it's just the way it is. I know guys who are complete bums, with no job and no life, but they were given a free car and thus they get dates. Me on the other hand, have a job and a social life, but can't afford a car yet and every attempt at dating has been thwarted by that reality.
    I'm an 18 year old Male by the way.

    And another topic that I won't get into... Teens NEVER deserve FREE cars.

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    • willyma
      11 years ago

      don't tell me? you drive a scooter, hehehe

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      • ScooterNyne
        11 years ago

        hehehe... yes i do

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    I don't care even slightly. There are buses, trains and bikes, and sometimes they make for more of an adventure. As long as they aren't averse to using public transport then not having a car means very little.

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  • lufa
    11 years ago

    "Hey babe, I'll meet you at this bus stop tomorrow for our date, here's a free ticket for you." Ya smooth.

    I'll grant the point that if you both live within the city, then a car is probably not necessary-but for the most part it is.

    Depends on the girl also and her standards.

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    • willyma
      11 years ago

      i'd hate to think. a girl wouldn't date me, just because i don't drive YIKES

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      • lufa
        11 years ago

        Well if she's in the same boat as you she might not care. Most girls tend to marry 'up' meaning they find a man who has more money/resources than they do.

        Where I live, a car is an absolute necessity and public transit is a joke here. I'm also in the burbs...so a guy without a car would be a total loser.

        Also in my city, people have a lot of money-so if you don't have a good income, you probably wouldn't be able to date.

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        • willyma
          11 years ago

          I'm not looking for a wife.

          so basically you're telling me..

          Man+Money = Date

          Man - Money= Loser

          ...

          i think any women who is just dating for profit, is not the kinda girl i want, but thank you for commenting

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          • lufa
            11 years ago

            You might not be looking for a wife, but the girl you want to date might be looking for her future husband and if she turns you down, it could be because your ass is broke and you have no ride. lol

            You're welcome.

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        • willyma
          11 years ago

          Also. would you only date a women with a car?

          is there a double standard here?

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          • lufa
            11 years ago

            Yes, I think it's perfectly fine if a woman doesn't have a car.

            Just as it's perfectly fine for me to open the door for a woman-but you might call that a double standard.

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            • willyma
              11 years ago

              chivalry is dead my friend. Women want to be treated equally. If a guy MUST have a car, then i think it's fair to assume the women MUST have car aswel.

              A women that ONLY dates men because he owns a car. yet doesn't drive herself, sounds a bit kardashian to me LOL

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          • tannah
            10 years ago

            definatley but there is with women If a man gets up looking dog rough it's fine but if it's a woman she should try harder.Also with kids both parents have had a long day at work and need to get kids sorted 9/10 it mum who needs to get it sorted so yeh there is a double standard but is just part of life.Traditional roles
            man = provider + financially secure
            woman = beautfiul + neturing

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            • willyma
              10 years ago

              Dafuq did i just read.

              Are you saying, the mans role is to provide (thus having a car symbolizes this?)

              and the women is supposed to look pretty and look after shit?

              its 2013 people. Whores and lazy assholes run rampant

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    I think the car issue depends on where a person lives and also how old they are. I was raised in the Houston, Texas area and owning a car there is just the norm even for most high school students because the metropolitan area is so spread out. When I was 19 I had to drive over 50 miles(one way) a day to go to college classes, then my job in the research department at a local radio station and on Fridays I would go clubbing after work. And at 19 I might go out again on Saturday nights which of course meant driving all the way back into the city from the suburbs again. I only ever dated one guy who didn't have a car when I was in college. He wasn't a keeper, but not because he didn't have a car but rather because he had no ambition and did drugs. Basically when I was growing up in Texas everyone had a car even the illegal aliens! A lot of us were driving old klunkers but pretty much everyone I knew drove.

    Whereas in New York City it's my understanding that many people don't own cars and some never even learn to drive. I don't think NYC would appeal to me unless I was wealthy because I couldn't afford to have a car there and for me coming from the culture of Texas I don't care to be without a car.

    Now as a happily single 43 year old living in Las Vegas, Nevada no car is pretty much a deal breaker because once again it is the norm. I prefer to live in a city that is more car oriented because of the privacy, independence and spontaneity it fosters. I admit that I dated one guy here who didn't have a car but he did have a college degree and a good job in academics. So I guess I've made exceptions. But exceptions are only for the exceptional and they tend not to be permanent. Either way, you're young and so I think if you don't have a long commute and you're working towards bettering yourself through higher education hopefully the car issue won't be such a big deal. Study and work hard and you'll get what you want. In the mean time if a car is the only deciding factor with a girl in regards to you then she's probably not worth your trouble. All the best to you.

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    • willyma
      11 years ago

      Thanks for the clear overview of the car situation.

      I get where your coming from. But where i live, car (insurance and stuff) prices are ridicules. (im already in allot of student debt) .

      Buying a car that i wouldn't use everyday. seems like a waste of money and harmful. However, i don't want my common sense to effect the success i have with the ladies.

      But sadly i suspect. many women will judge me as for it.

      chris rock said something along the lines of: "Once a women dates a guy with his own car, THAT'S HOW SHE ROLLS from now on".

      ergo. once a women is accustomed to a certain lifestyle. she will not regress back.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        LoL... Yeah, I love Chris Rock, he's funny as hell but his observations are pretty true to life.

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        • willyma
          10 years ago

          My kinda girl... but seriously, when a girl dates a guy with a car. she won't go back to dating (car-less guys).. or are there exceptions to every rule??

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          • willyma
            10 years ago

            BTW i know how to drive. does that make any difference?

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  • wigsplitz
    11 years ago

    Cars are a necessity where I live. I dated a couple people who didn't have cars and it was a huge problem. After experiencing what a problem it was, I stopped dating people without cars.

    I'd be turned off by a guy who had a car in a place where it wasn't a necessity though.

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    • willyma
      11 years ago

      What if you really liked the guy?

      Would you just ignore his calls, because he hasn't got a car?

      Do you drive?

      is it only a logistical reason? or because having a car shows a degree of wealth?

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      • wigsplitz
        11 years ago

        I don't like anybody THAT much.

        Yep, I'd ignore him.

        Yes, I do drive.

        I think a person who has a car where they don't need one is wasteful, not wise with money and probably only has the car just to say he has one or because he's brainwashed. To endure needless stress and expense and contribute to environmental destruction, more traffic and other waste is incredibly disgusting to me. I wouldn't want to be with such an idiot.

        Edit: If they lived somewhere where cars were a necessity in general but they personally didn't need one and didn't have one, that's fine (I wouldn't look down on them for not owning a car) but I still wouldn't date them.

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        • willyma
          11 years ago

          so. a car is so important, you're willing to ignore a perfectly good guy.

          WOW. you give women a bad name.

          seriously get that stick outta your ass. sweetheart

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          • wigsplitz
            11 years ago

            Well I'm married now anyway, so it doesn't really matter anymore.

            When I was young and first started dating I made a lot of concessions for guys. After gaining experience I realized certain things I just was NOT willing to put up with anymore. I never did come across a guy who was "perfectly good" except for having a car. Not having a car is usually one of many reasons I wouldn't date someone.

            You also have to understand, where I live a car IS a necessity. It's very rural, there's no public transport, everything is all spread out and the weather is shit for about 75% of the year.

            If someone around here doesn't have a car it's usually indicative of a host of other problems. No job, no license, DUI's, etc. Even if none of those things apply, not having a car puts such a strain on the relationship. Whether it's driving or anything else, when one partner has to do a lot more than the other it causes problems. You get fed up.

            I have the right to say what I'm willing to put up with. It doesn't make me bad. It's not like I didn't try, I did give some guys a chance before but it just didn't work out. Not 100% because of the car thing but it was a big part of the deterioration of the relationship.

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            • lufa
              11 years ago

              Well said. It takes money to run a car and a decent driving history. People who've had their licenses suspended, no insurance, etc is a reflection of their own bad character.

              I've known people like that and I'm glad they're not on the road being a threat to other drivers.

              It also means they don't have their shit in order-some other problems in their lives/lazy, irresponsible, etc.

              Perhaps willyma is one of these types of people or just a broke drug-head type and is bitter, who knows.

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            • willyma
              11 years ago

              haha. I think we are on different wavelengths.

              Im 19 (in college) and live in the city.

              You're middle aged and in the countryside (married).

              I'm more concerned with women my own age. that live in the city.

              Im sure when you were 19, you dated men without a car. so im happy

              thank-you for commenting

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  • megadriver
    10 years ago

    Not important. I'm a dude and I don't think it's important. I actually tell girls I have a car and show it to them after a couple of dates.
    I actually prefer walking. We can talk freely. I can look at her an tell her she is pretty. And I don't have to worry about where to park my car and will the car be safe.
    When I show her the car, I do expect a compliment. I take pride in my car.
    If she is only into BMW and says my car sucks, we are going to have a looooong talk XD

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  • Pwnfacertwn
    11 years ago

    Depends on where you live.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Well if you live in a city like London or whatever, hardly anyone has a car. But if I met a girl, where I live, I'd think she was kind of a pleb if she didn't have a car.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Depends where you live.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    I had a car when I met my current missus however it got wrote off so I just get her to drive me everywhere now which pisses her off.

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  • sanan22
    11 years ago

    I live in the middle of a city so a car is not a necessity in my case

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