How important are looks to you on a scale from 0-10 in dating?

How important are looks in a boyfriend or girlfriend? Just choose how important looks are on a scale from 0-10!

0. (The uglier the better) 0
1. (Looks don't matter at all) 2
2. (Looks matter a little, but not much) 9
3. (Looks are one of the things that matter) 4
4. (I'd prefer a better looking boyfriend/girlfriend if possible) 3
5. (Looks matter, but not as much as personality) 25
6. (Looks and personality both matter the same) 28
7. (Looks matter a little more than personality) 12
8. (Looks matter a lot more than personality) 2
9. (Looks matter way more than personality) 1
10. (Looks are the only that matter) 1
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Comments ( 23 )
  • sandraasiilva

    I think both matter, because you can't be in a relationship with a person you don't feel attracted. But also, you can't love someone just because that person is good looking.

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  • dustã…¤

    If I were breaking it down into percentages, I would say looks are only about 20% of the package, if that, and personality accounts for the rest of my attraction.

    Looks-wise, the two physical attributes that turn me off completely are huge nostrils and acute skinniness. But, there's more to looks that just a person's physical composition. It's their hygiene, their clothes, their hair-style, body modifications (tattoos, piercings), and their posture. All of those things are important too and are mostly within the control of individual, so then maybe they blend into personality a bit too. This is such a complicated topic.

    I picked 2/10 on your list.

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  • FutureSeadog

    I'm going to be honest here and say that looks really do matter to me in looking for a potential partner. I know how shallow and even hypocritical this is, but there's no changing my fundamental mate-seeking instincts. I'm quite leniant about body types, but a reasonably pretty (or appealing) face is a must. This is all hypothetical though, since I've not yet actually been in a relationship.

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    • You're not being shallow, you're being honest! I totally agree with you. I'd say looks matter more than personality but personality matters too. :)

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  • anti-hero

    I will take a good personality any day of the week. Lucky for me my girlfriend's a 10 with a 15 personality. Which is great considering I'm a 3.7 with a 6 Personality at best.

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  • neversaynotopanda

    At the start of a " relationship " as you humans call it or start of courting 5, but then as time goes on the number reduces

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  • arianagray

    If i happen to meet someone i like who is unattractive, them not being attractive doesn't bother me. The thing is, when you see someone who's unattractive, your first instinct isn't "hey i want to date them" as opposed to someone who is attractive.

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  • Swan_Theif9854

    Being honest just a little more.

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  • joker69676

    Looks matter a little. Theres got to be some physical attraction, and thats partially for when ou get in bed. And, if i have no sexual attraction, then it wouldnt be a boyfriend. Itd be just another friend. Because i think a boyfriend is pretty much that guy friend that you decide to have sex with and can stand to live with. I love a few of my guy friends. And theyre attractive. But i dont wanna get in bed with them. Partialy because thatd be weird for us, and partially because even though i know theyre attractive, theyre just not, for lack of better words, my type. But personality is huge. Matters more than looks to me. Idc how good you look, an asshole is an asshole and i wont be around it.

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  • Mikjall

    I'm going to go with 3. I'm asexual, so it doesn't play the typical role of mattering with sexual attraction...but the person really needs to look like they groom themselves, have self respect, etc. 'Tis just my opinion.

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  • wistfulmaiden

    Looks matter because if you mate, the kid will carry those genetics ! Personality and looks are equally important to me.

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  • sarah8

    i would say both matters. unless you fall in love not sure if you will completely ignore either the looks or personality altogether.

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  • dom180

    If you're in love, looks are almost completely negligible.

    If it's nothing serious, looks might or might not matter very much. If there's nothing else desirable about a person, yet you're still dating them, then their looks must be very important. Otherwise, probably not.

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  • ilovetoiletrolls

    5 because the other 5 is personality. :)

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  • iEatZombies_

    Looks are a standard part of a relationship. It always starts with looks before the relationship goes elsewhere. Afterwards, love comes into the picture and the individual remains beautiful based on how you feel about them. No matter how attractive someone is, you can only fuck em so many times til you get bored if you don't love em. If you do though, they can let themselves go to a degree and still be attractive/fuckable. Therefore, looks are always important and always there.

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  • Incomplet

    Could you define what constitutes "look"? Are we speaking in a strictly genetic matter? Or do we include fashion taste, makeup application (these overlap with personality)?

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    • Looks are simply you're appearance. What you look like, not personality. Personality is your attitude.

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      • Incomplet

        Are we speaking in a strictly genetic matter? Or do we include fashion taste, makeup application (these overlap with personality)?

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        • No, the poll is just asking how important it is for your boyfriend/girlfriend to be physically attractive, meaning hot, sexy, cute, pretty, etc.... Not about personality. The higher rating, the more it would be about just how they look. As for me, I personally would have to say a 7. I would want someone who looks good, but also has a personality that I like.

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          • Incomplet

            Please read my questions.

            Are we speaking in a strictly genetic matter? Or do we include fashion taste, makeup application (these overlap with personality)?

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            • We are pretty much speaking of facial features and body type when we say looks.

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  • thegypsysailor

    I think that looks are the attractant. After you are dating, they become much less important to the relationship. I don't think any relationship can survive on looks alone.
    Interestingly, my present wife is as far from my "type" as a woman could possibly be, yet it's probably the best relationship I've ever been in. Not that she isn't attractive, it's just that she is nothing like any other girl I've dated since college. We met through a friend and spent a whole night sitting in the cockpit talking, and we've basically not been apart since that night. We just clicked and looks had little to do with this relationship.

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