How far is too far to go?

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Hi,

I'm 20 years old, and I'm not new to relationship scenario. I know what love is I have felt it before, but what I feel now I can't be sure of, because it sure as hell can't be love when it feels 100 times greater.
My story is simple and sweet, just like the girl in it. I feel in love head over heels. We meet as friends first day when I moved to my new school and we were good friends for a long time after. We started dated during senior year at high school up until nearly two months ago, meaning I have known her for over 6 years and have dated for just over 2 and half. In the time frame we didn’t date I saw other girls, feel in love too but she was always remained one of my closet friends. The relationship was perfection, not one upset, not one tear shed. We grew not only as a couple but even closer as friends, well more precisely the best friends that we’d always wanted growing up. Of course happiness turned to tragedy and she told me one day that she couldn’t do it anymore. My heart was broken which isn’t anything uncommon. I did all the normal things to do, I packed up all our things, put pictures away, deleted e-mails, deleted facebook, basically everything that needed to be done to move on.

Here I am though still, just like every other day thinking about her constantly, not wanting to forget the look of her face, or the sound of her voice. It’s like there is this feeling or voice inside that tells me every time I take a step toward pursuing something new that I’m told I’m not supposed too. That everything I do is supposed to be shared with her. She’s the friend that you never want to see go, the person that no matter what happened you wouldn’t look any differently into their eyes and love them any less. Am I wrong for wanting to jump out of my skin and race to the end of the earth to just merely take her by hand and guide her back to the world that is so much more beautiful with her in it? Can I? How far can a person go if they truly believe in something?

It’s like there is this gut feeling that tells me that this isn’t right. It’s a feeling like I’m about to let slip away the best friend and lover that I was meant to find, and I don’t want to have too forget.

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  • lalala13
    13 years ago

    I am exactly on the same scenario, felt the same things you described, we have broke up for about 5 months, she gave many contraditory reasons to leave-me. Now I am starting to see a light at the end of tunnel and all that strong love became bitter, I hope I never ever find her again because such egocentric girl just dont deserve me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Go as far as you can but don't be pushy I have litterally the exact same problem just I'm younger and it hasn't been quite as long but either way i just want to say your not alone

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  • Adden
    14 years ago

    If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect.

    -Alison Willcocks

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  • fuckallyalls
    14 years ago

    some girls don't like to be the center of the world. some want to not be a princess, just ur girlfriend. if you love her get her, but if you can, move the fuck on because she probably never loved you and the reason you are alone is because she was cheating on you, but considering how hung up you are, you cheated on her, that's why you want to be with her so badly. you know it's because of something you did so now you need to feel in control. i just went house on ur ass

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    • CarlWinslow989
      14 years ago

      lol at the house comment. That's awesome. Anyways, many so-called "aficionados" will disagree with me, however; if you truly love this woman, you will do whatever it takes to get her which includes figuring out how to keep her no matter the cost.

      It is hard to stay logical in situations such as these because it is impossible to control emotion, but if it is meant to be; you will figure it out. This means if you are being too clingy, you will learn to take a step back until she makes the next move, etc.

      On the other side which I also partially agree with, life is completely unfair and women are even moreso. The exact logical things that are supposed to attract a women and keep them attracted are the exact opposite of what they find desirable.

      Basically, the answer lies in between and it's almost impossible to find reliable sources in topics that have confused the species since cavemen. Women are impossible to fully understand especially because they can't understand their own actions most of the time, however; you find a good woman and she will be the equivalent of ten cheaper women. Those are the women you figure out how to hold onto no matter the cost and it doesn't always work out that way.

      Good news, there are 6.5 billion people in the world and chances are, you didn't meet the "one and only" person who will complete you.

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  • Everabsentevernear
    14 years ago

    I never got a clear reason, she just said shed couldn't do it. I never did anything I treated her like the princess she deserved to be.

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  • Ambiguity
    14 years ago

    ^ i second that, but you should really be more specific as to why she left. you havent gotten over her, but the first steps always the hardest. if ur gut tells you to go after her, i'd do it!

    p.s if the reason she left is legitimate and a result of something you did, disregard this comment =P

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  • Cyanide
    14 years ago

    The best thing I can say, sence I dont know her reason for leaving is...
    If you love her, let her know it, and if you have to, let her go.
    Don't hold yourself back from meeting anyone new, just because your suck on her. if it is ment to be, it will be.

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