How far in the friend zone am i?

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Today I had the girl of my dreams tell me she loves me like a big brother. So basically from one to ten I want to know how far in the 'friend zone' I've just been placed.

One - Not too far, she's probably into you. 1
Two - Only a bit, but hey she said 'love' right? 2
Three - Ohh, yes, like a big brother? That's cool. 7
Four - Ah man, at least now you have an awesome sister. 12
Five - Average, average. Nothing gained, nothing lost. 4
Six - Not good, but hey! Shiz happens. 2
Seven - Hey, it sucks. But you can stay good friends. 28
Eight - Ooh, that's harsh. I'd try to forget about her. 9
Nine - You have about as much chance as a lamp. 10
Ten - You are so far in the friend zone, you might as well buy shares. 44
Fuck it. I'm a tiger. 38
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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    ok... there is no such thing as a fucking friend zone.

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I disagree. There is such a thing as the friend zone, the problem is that people see it as a bad thing and give it a negative connotation. However, there are plenty of people who move on with their infatuation and continue the friendship.

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        10 years ago

        It has a negative connotation because it's still a way to reject someone. I could never be friends with a girl who just made it clear to me that I'm so unattractive that even if I were the last guy in the world she'd still not want babies with me.

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        • Anime7
          10 years ago

          In my experience I was never friendzoned with an insult. If she really insulted you then clearly she never valued your friendship in the first place. It is a way to reject someone but think about how the other person feels. The trust is destroyed and they're left pondering that perhaps the only reason the person was even friends with you in the first place was because they were clinging to the thought of having sex with you someday. I've thought this way before, but a good friend of mine showed me how it really screws over both parties. If you had a good friendship, then the friendzone is no big deal. I know it hurts man, believe me I do, but sadly, it's a part of life. Not everybody is going to like you. Hell perhaps only a few will, but you can't hold it over the person.

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          • GoraIntoDesiGals
            10 years ago

            I don't understand why a rejected person's legitimate and natural desire for a sex life like everyone else always has to be derided as some sort of "ulterior motive" that's somehow less noble than friendship. That aside I could never be friends knowing she WILL have sex with someone else then cry on my shoulder for relationship problems with the other dude. Thanks but no thanks. I'll just move on.

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            • Anime7
              10 years ago

              On your first sentence, I agree. Everybody, well almost everybody, desires sex. It's such a human thing that it is looked at with disgust. Religion taught us that it's wrong, and for many generations we imprinted off the Bible. But sex is so human, why is it bad? It shouldn't be that way, but I think people might view it as an "ulterior motive" because as much as people want it, there are things getting in the way. We have gender divisions for starters. Guys acknowledge they have a sex drive, while girls don't. If a guy has a lot of sex he's congratulated, whereas a girl would be harangued for it. We need to stop stressing our bodies and what we do with them. If we want to have a lot of sex then so be it, nobody should be slut-shamed for living their life and enjoying something that practically everyone else does.

              As for you second sentence, I've never been in a friendship with someone where I got rejected and they dated somebody else and I played the shoulder. If that's the role you're in then I don't blame you for leaving the friendship. Based on the information you've given so far, she clearly seems to be only using you when she has a problem. Maybe she's a nice person, but I can't say. She doesn't seem like someone who values the friendship though.

              For the record, I would like to say that I am not a person free of guilt. When I first got friendzoned I alienated myself from the person. However, I don't think we were good enough friends to where me being away mattered. Recently I just bluntly told a girl that I liked her and she turned me down. We went to prom but just as friends. The way I figured we were in the same group of friends and it would just be an inconvenience if there was some tension between us. Besides I sort of realized that if we were dating it wouldn't have worked out anyways. I'm just saying this cause I want you to understand that I have been vindictive before towards the person who rejected me and I understand how you feel. I just had an interesting, paradigm shifting, conversation with a good friend who taught me how the friendzone screws over both parties. I don't want to be those "nice guys" who feel entitled to sex because they're apparently "nice." I don't want to complain about not having sex, and be like those guys.

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  • Jayy
    10 years ago

    As far as you would love to fuck your sister. It's over, man.

    Just, just leave.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      We're not related at all, she said she loves me "like" a brother, not an actual brother haha.

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      • Jayy
        10 years ago

        I know. My point is, she loves you like "a brother" so If you ask me how far in the friend zone you are, I'll say as far as you would like to fuck your sister. Like in; FAR

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        • jeebley
          10 years ago

          You're really into incest, hey?

          lol (kidding)- the misunderstanding just made me laugh.

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          • Jayy
            10 years ago

            Ain't nobody got time for that!

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    Nine. I'm not going to write you off completely, but its going to take her a fair few years of considering you as a big brother to actually start to realize what a good relationship you guys have, how most other guys are assholes, etc, and for you to actually get a chance at something more, if you ever do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    It depends on if she's into incest or not.

    If she's not, I'd say it was a polite way of telling you where you stand with her---and siblings aren't supposed to have romantic feelings about one another. So, at least a 7.

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I was thinking around 7 as well.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Yeah, it's not likely she's one of those kinky girls who make stories on IIN about wanting to fuck their brother. :)

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        • Anime7
          10 years ago

          Haha, didn't even know those girls existed!

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  • flowergirl87
    10 years ago

    Wtf is the friend zone? Does there really need to be such a thing? lol

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago

    You to need to get the fuck out of there. Or as Arnie would say, GET TO THE CHOPPA!!

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  • PureLikeSnow
    10 years ago

    You're at the point of no return.

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  • 69
    10 years ago

    you need a jackhammer to come back

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  • CheyChey
    10 years ago

    You're wayyyy deep in it bro, get comfy.

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  • Nephew7
    10 years ago

    5 and heres why, that just means shes connected with you, just dont say" you're like a sister" you still have a chance at it just stick to your guns and look for something else, dont give too much attention or she really will start to think you are her brother, jealousy works

    GOODLUCK

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    You've most likely been placed in 7.

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