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I have a problem where I don't take care of what other people feel. My feelings matter more than anyone else's. I often can't not feel what other people feel. As long as I get what I want, no one else matters.
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Ok, well here's how you start. If someone's mom dies, for example, don't focus on the other person at first. Focus on how bad you would feel if your loved one died. Then you can start to figure out how to help the person, based on your view of the matter.
This is the beginning of empathy: putting yourself in someone else's shoes. It's quite different from sympathy; empathy is simply sharing the sufferings of others.
I used to be kinda like you. I used to not think about others much, or wanna help others. Now, I'd much rather give than receive. There's nothing more fulfilling than helping someone else. You can develop empathy when you've been through shit because you start to understand what it's like. Not looking for pity, but I've experienced death, heartbreak, hopelessness, etc. just like many others and those experiences probably made me a better person.
Whatever the case, you will likely start feeling it eventually. Here's why, if you're selfish not many people will like you. You will find yourself alone. I don't know many people who like to be alone their whole life. Eventually, it gets old and you will wanna change. The strongest hatred that anybody could feel is self-hatred. Thus, that causes you to reflect on yourself and on your life.
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It's a simple concept, so am not sure what's preventing you from feeling it.
You just imagine you are the other person for a second. How would YOU feel if you were in their situation?
Really it depends on WHY you don't feel empathy in the first place.
For some, brain disease can ruin parts of the brain associated with empathy & consequences, so they do not feel this. Also genetically, one can develop less brain matter in certain areas - including that associated with empathy - so they won't feel it. If it's a bioloigcal cause, medicene for this has thus far proven mostly ineffective and there's no real way to resolve it.
If it's the case of nurture, how you were raised or caused by truama, empathy can be learnt. I'm not so knowing in the area of the social side of it, but empathy is known to be affected by social factors such as living standards. People who live around nicer people/in nicer neighbourhoods generally are more empathetic for example. A therapist would be best for learning empathy though.
Watch Dexter for some tips. He gets really good at mimicking empathy in his human interactions.
It's something that's within you. Feeling sad and having pity for others.
It's not something you can teach. Either you develop it or you don't. Unfortunately some people who have it use it against people to hurt them even more.
I don't know if you can develop empathy but you can try to be more caring and sensitive to others. I read that most children develop empathy around 3-5 years of age...maybe you didn't watch enough Sesame Street or something. But at least you are trying to be a better person.