How does it work?

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I'm 21, never had a boyfriend, always be shy, never one for going out.
I've liked guys in the past but they've never been into me, I always thought I had a plan to get a nice guy as quick as I could get married and have kids, and grand kids ect. But being introverted it was hard, I found myself and started being more confident, now I don't feel ready for a boyfriend, I mean I want one but not yet.. I want to go out and live! I'm happy on my own.

But for the first time ever, a guy is into me. Now is it normal to know after one date to the cinema that I don't like him that way? My mum is pushing me to go out with him, saying it will take time, and that it'll never happen if I don't start somewhere, now obviously this brought my confidence right down, and I am now questioning life.
He keeps texting me and I keep being off. But he's asked me to go round to his for a meal, and as much as I feel awful because I'm just not interested, I feel I should go.. I have no close friends to talk to this about and my family will say go and push me.
I mean it doesn't feel normal to know you're not into someone straight away, I don't want a boyfriend yet, I just.. How does it work?

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    Don't be a cock tease.

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  • canihelpit
    9 years ago

    You sound super insecure. Love yourself then you'll be able to love someone else. No friends? Tf? You should just friend him see where it goes from there. No one can tell you how to live, live for your own person.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    How often do you make friends instantaneously? You don't even know this guy yet, how can you possibly say you don't like him in 'that way' when you don't even know what 'that way' is yet? Why not just spend some time with this guy (or another) and not get so hung up on what might happen. You might find that you just like spending time with somebody more than you like being alone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I just don't feel attached to him. And I don't feel like I ever will be :/ and therefore I don't want to lead him on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Did you already ask this, because I know I read a similar story this week.
    Either go out with him or don't. It's not fair to him to not be direct with what you want.
    It seems you don't want to, so tell him that.
    It is none of your parents buisness what you decide to do.
    You have a lot of life ahead of you. Very few people find a life partner at that age.
    Maybe be his friend but say you don't want a relationship.
    I think for best results make lots of friends who may or may not be potential future partners, and when you are ready you can pick one.
    Most things work best when you don't try to force it. Just go with the flow of life and don't worry about anything.

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  • mlbryan44
    9 years ago

    Suck him off and see how you feel after that.

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  • sexysonofsam
    9 years ago

    The simple and straightforward way of dealing with this, is to be honest. Tell him that you are not romantically interested in him and won`t ever be, however that you are willing to be just friends. If he accepts that, he is worth having as a friend, if not, you have lost nothing.

    Your mother sounds a bit overbearing to me. I suggest that you tell her that your life has more meaning to it than being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen with somebody you do not love. as the previous reader said, love yourself first before anybody else.

    Whether you are 21 or 31, you will know when you have met the right person. Live your life like there is no tomorrow. enjoy what you have.

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