How do you view/stereotype divorced people?

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Do you think divorce is disgraceful and people who've had a divorce are lazy lovers with emotional baggage?

Or, do you think that in today's "modern world" that marriage is only a temporary, yet lengthy, formal obligation for mutual love and companionship that most likely will fizzle out one day. When that day comes, a divorce is a normal and perfectly acceptable solution. Perhaps, people should even go into marriage, shucking off the notion that marriage must last a lifetime, and embrace divorce as a conclusion to some beautiful years shared together. People might stay together until their final days, but an expectation to do so would be ridiculous.

Notice, I did not mention adultery or abuse (that would take another poll or two to cover).

I've never been married but I think divorce is acceptable. 43
I've never been married but I think only fools divorce. 10
I'm married, I don't believe I'll ever be divorced - we are ideal . 4
I'm married, I've thought about divorced but things are better now. 4
I'm married and want a divorce but I'm too afraid to leave. 3
I'm divorced and regret it, it was a mistake. 1
I'm divorced and it was the best decision I could have made. 6
I'm divorced and remarried. I think it was the right thing to do. 1
I divorced and remarried, but I regret it. 0
Other. You can explain below. :) 2
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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    Sometimes people aren't meant for each other and to stay together is pure toxicity. Who am I to judge one persons feelings toward another.
    Surely, they must have good reasons for it?

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  • DudeUrFuglyXox
    12 years ago

    why would you waste your life staying with someone if you wernt happy anymore

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    I answered "I'm married, I don't believe I'll ever be divorced - we are ideal", but that's just me. I don't think that would or should ring true for everyone. I do wonder sometimes how sincere people are who get divorced weeks after getting married. I wonder why they even bothered at all.

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  • bananaface
    12 years ago

    A person can't predict how they will feel about a person in 10 years, so I view marriage as quite a risk, and I don't judge people being divorced, unless the reason why they are divorced is strange...

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  • DiscoDuck
    12 years ago

    I was walking into a store one day and exchanged looks with this nice looking female. I asked her "Are you married" she replied "No I am happy"

    That says it all....

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  • randomguy111
    12 years ago

    You shouldn't marry unless you mean it. Unless you are absolutely sure he/she is the right person for you. Otherwise what is the point of marriage? You might as well stay as boyfriend/girlfriend, the whole point of marriage is to symbolize being together forever.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      "You shouldn't marry unless you meant it."

      Because people who end up in a failed marriage never meant it??

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      • randomguy111
        12 years ago

        If you see in marriage they have to say they will get through the good times and the bad. They make a signed agreement to that. So why should they break it?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          Abuse, neglect, apathy, resentment, etc.

          Those are all legitimate reasons I think.

          People are not static entities for the rest of their lives. They change, sometimes drastically and unpredictably.

          Just because they signed a marriage certificate, doesn't mean that they agreed to be together for LIFE. Sure some people DO agree (in their vows, which are NOT a binding legal agreement)to do the whole "Till death do us part" nonsense, but not all do and it would really depend on your upbringing.

          Personally, I think that it's better to divorce and move on, than for both people to stay miserable for decades on end just to make good on a promise. Keeping the promise at all costs seems like insanity and it's a good thing that our laws reflect this.

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  • Britton
    12 years ago

    Marriage is (or SHOULD be) a unity of two people for life. You shouldn't take vows and confess in front of (sometimes) hundreds of people "til death do we part" unless you truly mean it. If you go into a marriage with the mindset of failure then you should adjust your vows accordingly. "til death do we part or unless we find something better or get bored of each other." Lol.
    I was married. I have the experience. I had a child ONE WEEK after saying my vows. I let my parents talk me into proposing to my ex-wife which was a HUGE mistake. I still believe in marriage and want to be a husband to the RIGHT woman of MY choosing (and her blessing, of course!). My parents have been married for 29 years this year and have been through some of the toughest times I've ever seen people go through. "Til death do we part" does still exist and people do still believe in it :)

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  • umph
    8 years ago

    Do you remember what you vowed when you got married?
    Now, how much does your word value?
    Is it good to know that no one could ever trust your word again?

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
    10 years ago

    A portion of people who divorce simply rushed into the marriage too quickly, which, yeah, is mostly their fault, but I don't hold it against them. However, a much bigger portion have needed a divorce because of circumstances beyond their control. Whatever the case, I respect all decisions to divorce wholeheartedly. I don't think it's healthy to try to hold onto a marriage past its sell-by date.

    That said, marriage should at least be INTENDED as a permanent thing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You're a bigger idiot to stay with someone who doesn't suite you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Instead of marrying someone, find a girl you hate and buy her house

    Thats what my physics teacher said.

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    • DiscoDuck
      12 years ago

      Smart teacher.

      Cut through all the drama and get straight to the end.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    I don't think much of it, since it's so common. Although its funny that people keep putting themselves through marriage even though they usually end up in divorces

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    i may not be married yet but i still believe that divorce is a horrible thing. I don't say this because of religion, i say this because i wonder how people can get so serious with somebody to marry them, and then find out something about the person and leave them. so what i mean by this is, come on people, know what your getting into.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      My husband had a career change, which significantly altered his personality (which he admitted to), he started to abuse me, so I divorced him.

      We were married for 17 years. Back then, I did know what I was getting into, but the situation changed after the first dozen years.

      For most people I know, who have divorced, it's far too complicated to make such a trite judgement that they don't take marriage seriously enough.

      You're probably too young to think of your own life in terms of decades; you probably still think of it in terms of years.

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