How do you treat your significant other?

Ya know what else? ...people learn from their parents how to treat eachother. My parents have NEVER had a heated argument within ear-shot of me. And if they argue, they make up. So, this is how I've treated every GF I've had.

If a girl or a guy shout at their significant other, it's not hard to figure out where they got the idea that that behavior was the norm.

That's also a really good point for parents: Your kids will do as you do. If you hit your wife/husband, shout, break things...you are just setting the mold - so be cognitive of your actions.

My boyfriend and I have never argued, not even once. And I treat him like a bestfriend - without all the gory bits. (e.g. no talking about periods, and clothes and makeup and things with him.)
I think it's just some people can't disagree without arguing and then it gets personal, with insults and things.
They do say you hurt the ones closest to you the most.
My best friend and her boyfriend argue all the time, over the littlest things, but it doesn't mean they don't love each other, it's just their opinions clash, and their disagreements can get nasty.

I think it is safe to say someone should treat the person they love or are committed to better and kinder than aquaintances, friends, or pets. After all that person has devoted themselves and loves them unconditionally knowing all of their flaws. However the sad truth of some relationships is that people take this loyalty and devotion for granted until one day their partner wakes up and realizes they deserve better.

when me and my bf started dating, we fight a lot. 5-6 times a day. but after 6 years together, there's really nothing much to fight about and it makes us closer. to me, it is a phase that every couple needs to go through. when u've gone through the worse, your relationship will grew stronger

First of all, since you were there, she should not have started an argument at that time. She should have waited to do this in private. Next, you are supposed to treat you significant other with as much love and respect as humanly possible, the same that you expect in return. My girlfriend and I only really argue about one thing: I do not show her much love because I am usually not the one to call her or text her throughout the day. I realize this is wrong of me because I expect her to do call/text me when ever she feels. I am now working on communicating my feelings with her daily since I am madly in love with her. If we did have something else to argue about, I do believe that we would do it in private and not in the public eye. I feel friends should not be aware of problems in your relationship unless you turn to them for help.

tell her to wave her arse in his face that should do the trick

That is not normal at all. Sounds like they aren't meant for each other. I love my boyfriend with my whole heart and I would never want to say something that would hurt his feelings intentionally and he would never do that to me. All I want to do is make my boyfriend happy and show him how much I love him and he does the same.. thats sad that they are so unhappy that they say mean things to each other it shouldn't be like that :(

I treat my husband quite well. We do argue sometimes, but its not so bad. I wish he would just give a little more sometimes. He'll never give as much as me and that's ok, but just a little more, huh. I don't mean give as in give gifts or anything like that. I just do a lot more as far as 'we' are concerned. Like usually, 'we' means 'me'. Like he'll say we'll call about that this weekend. No honey, you mean I will. Ugh. But its cool. I'll live. He's awesome otherwise :)

I said "yes", because it's pretty common, but that doesn't mean it should be. So many relationships fail over insecurities, among other things. Real love is hard to come by anymore.

I think your friends relationship has lost its spark. Fighting over nothing just gives it away. Tell her to try to ignite the fire back before their relationship ends. I don't have a girlfriend but I would treat her like my best friend.