How do you stop pushing someone away?

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Sometimes I cant help but push people away and its ruining my life, I am in a long distance relationship. And I adore the person so much. We've spoken everyday for a year or so and really got to know each other. The thing is things are changing hes working more and not being able to speak which kills me and my mind goes into overdrive and I keep thinking the worse i.e he isn't bothered, hes going off me, hes met someone else. Ive been hurt in the past and he has gone a few times which makes it worse. But I cant stop bringing up the worse and how I don't want to loose him. I want my life to be with this man and if I don't stop he'll leave for good.

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  • flatusfairy
    9 years ago

    You might try pulling them as pushing would be the opposite of pulling.

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  • Beniceyou!Stopbeingsoselfish!
    9 years ago

    You cannot have a long distance relatonship and have it work for good. Trust me. I've been there, that's going to be truly difficult. I don't think you are pushing him away, maybe he is the one drifting away since he is starting to work more but in reality know this. Romantic and long term relationships are hard enough withtout adding distance to them. If you aren't keeping in touch regularly and having sex regularly, then I doubt your relationship will go further than just through the phone or text/email. Sorry but that's how it is, and unless you both find a way to move closer to each other, the little instances will be super hard to deal with.

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