How do you manage a meaningless crush when you are in a relationship?

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I think it's common that when you are in a relationship most of the time you don't even think about fancying anyone else. But once in a while there's this moment when your relationship is not going that great or you just happen to make a new friend (at work or whatever) that you kind of fancy, but you just know it's in your mind and not worth ending a relationship for.
How do you deal with that? Has it ever happened to you?

Completely avoid seeing that new person again.	9
Understand it's something temporary.	21
Other (explain)	6

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wistfulmaiden

8 years ago

Good question. I think if it's someone you know you'll never be with or you hardly see, it's ok to fantasize a bit. But if it's someone you could potentially cheat with, I'd say avoidance is the key.

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Mario24

8 years ago

As long as you care about your relationship and know that it's more prior than your crush you are not harming it. having a friend is normal and we do have temporary crush on someone.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Hmmm... yeah.
  It's so much fun hanging out with this person, I was happy to hear from him again.
  I think I just had forgotten how nice it is to make new friends, with new stories and all. It's been really refreshing.
  
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rimjob

8 years ago

If you are female its perfectly normal. Hypergamy sucks for beta males.

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dytrog

8 years ago

I have found if you do not act fast on a crush, attraction to another person it will soon be to late and turn into a friendship or just forgotten.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yeah, I hope it turns into one friendship.
  
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NotAgain..

7 years ago

Have a side piece for a while duh! Then move on and forget about it

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Melora

8 years ago

It's a warning sign that there is something wrong in your relationship. You probably subconsciously feel that you are not compatible enough with one another.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Thanks, I think you are right.
  
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sillygirl77

8 years ago

Have fun crushing on the person from a distance, and don't act on it.

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Anonymous Post Author

8 years ago

Gosh, I really miss the thrill of flirting :(

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- (s)aint
  
  8 years ago
  
  Does not sound like you are too happy in your relationship?
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    8 years ago
    
    I've been having my doubts, its true.
    Flirting is always fun but one doesn't seem to miss it that much when everything is ok.
    
    Still I guess couples that are married for decades have that temptation every once in a while. I mean, it's fun, it's like a game, the mechanics of flirting
    
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    - (s)aint
      
      8 years ago
      
      Well, if things are not okay and you have found someone that peaks your interest I´d say things are not going that well.
      
      It´s normal to feel attracted to others, but to say that you crush on someone other than your partner is basically saying that you are about to be over him.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        8 years ago
        
        It could be a sign/warning that my relationship is damaged and I'm not accepting it, you are right. I've been there before. I'll keep my eyes open for signs.
        
        There's a part of me that's been wanting to leave the relationship for a while, actually. But things were starting to get better... I'm confused :(
        
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        NeofelisNebulosa
        
        8 years ago
        
        I started to feel this way in my last relationship and we broke up a few months later. I kept experiencing these other crushes and missing the excitement of flirting. I didn't know it was a warning sign that there was an underlying problem. So rather than dismissing these feelings as innocent, perhaps you should see whether there is another problem in your current relationship?
        
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- RoseIsabella
  
  8 years ago
  
  Don't flirt or fantasize, because it will only feel these feelings of yours.
  
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