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After graduation the only way to make friends is with hobbies. What if you don't have any hobbies and people you try and talk to think you are creepy?
Do you have a job? Have you ever thought about submitting your art?
If you did you could meet other artists. There's also friends you can make online too. It's not easy, just be yourself, hopefully you'll meet some people.
Submitting to who? Friends online are not real friends. You can have 100 online friends and no one is really with you. Well not that they are not really friends but they can only talk.
I'm just trying to give you ideas, sorry I can't be of help. Best I can give you is this, there is a site, I've forgot the name but it exists, where tons of random people get together. It sounds lame, but basically there are, I believe, hundreds of groups that have different interests and you can sign up or just go and hang out, it's basically for people who want to do things, but are limited because the friends they have or don't have wont do that certain thing. It's the best I've got, I wish I knew the name. You can send me a pm so we can keep in touch and I'll try to find it for you.
What do you mean nothing. Do you play video games? Surf the web? Watch movies? Spend time outdoors?
Embrace your uniqueness, and find people with common interests. They're out there.
It is possible to make friends without having any hobbies. Do you have a job? If so, the common thing that you and that said person would have in common is profession and if you got to know one another a bit more, you might find out that you have a lot in common. I'm also socially awkward so I've had hits and misses on trying to make new friends. The last time I can remember making an offline friend was, I think, 2 years ago. We met at a community college course I took for art. We have never gone out on excursions but the same can be said for most of the friends I made in the past. I don't know, but now I don't want to deal with them on a daily basis. I've got all of these anxieties and what not so, with my luck, I might end up making things incredible awkward. Right now, I'm content with communicating on and off. Do you have any friends that you made in high school? Or better yet, why don't you try getting to know one of your professors? Maybe your problem, is not being able to relate with your peer group? I have the same exact problem. Its rare for me to be able to relate to a peer. I've always gotten along with ease with someone who was one, two or more decades older than me.
Lovers do not last ever! Drinking makes you fat. Smoking is bad for your lunges. I don’t have enough money for a family right now so even if I did want a child am not going to have one. Most of the drugs people do are illegal and dont need anything on my record.
No I lost contact with most of my high school friends. I also should not be talking to my high school friends anymore. My friends are all either older or younger.
The older people I know talk about being married, have kids, and drink. I don't have a family! Everyone I know between 19-25 already has everything together a house kids, a car, a lover, children.
I don't want any of that! They talk about drinking and playing pool and smoking joints. I really do not care about any of that!
I know I might be the one insane person over 19 who does not spend my time high with a bowl or weed or talking about family and church but I don't want to! I spent most of high school in relationships and I still don't see the point.
I take college classes so I either make friends in class via helping with homework or study groups or I hang around campus and loiter groups until some of them like me. I also work so every now and then I'll meet someone cool where I work but since it's security, I try not to do that. I'm going into MEPS for the Army Reserve so there's a chance I'll have a better workplace environment to make friends in soon.
You can meet people by doing things. If you're not doing any damned thing though, not having friends may be the least of your problems.
I already listed what I do regularly. I tried making friends from classes but they think I am a freak when I ask if they want to. I did not know it was so creepy to ask someone to go to the movies and hang out. When are you allowed to ask someone if they want to hang out? Do you have to wait a month or what? I not sure how to do this. It is not working very well since I left high school!
I don't see where you listed what you do but it wasn't in the opening of the post and I don't feel it's my responsibility to look into the rest of your replies if you're the one that should be conveying this information to me. I saw some shit about drawing and TV but that can't be ALL you do.
Damn, see, it's difficult to explain this. For me, I don't really give a fuck because I have so much to do I rarely have time for friends (I am at work right now!) And I used to have trouble with this before I stopped giving a damn.
So I guess stop giving a damn and realize your audience. You might be talking to people like me where I'm asked to hang out but I'm busy and have to turn it down. What works for me is that I talk to them regularly and add them to Facebook. It definitely took me more than three weeks to build relationships with these people that they became cool with being asked to do things.
It's really not something you can force. The best advice I can give you is to quit giving so much of a shit, keep talking to them, add them to Facebook and build from there. I can tell you that before I had a job and a busy schedule, I had trouble making friends and I probably seemed desperate. Now, I'm just like most of them, busy and perpetually worn out. I can relate to them and it's more natural for me to make friends because) I'm not really worried about making friends. Give it time. I used to be shit at this too.
I'm not exactly sure, but I think you should at least know the person for a certain amount of time. Going up to someone you barely know or don't know at all and asking them if they want to hang out can make you come off in a strange lightening even if you didn't intend to do so.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melanie-gorman/adult-friendship-101_b_789388.html
I don't know but they clearly felt like they didn't know you ENOUGH. I guess a few months but sometimes it depends on the situation/people. Surely, there's a Dummies Guide on how to make friends.
http://www.amazon.com/How-Start-Conversation-Make-Friends/dp/1451610998
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People
I think that a book on Body Language might help a lot too.