How do you make friends?

84% Normal
8 Comments

I cant seem to make or maintain friends, I don't know why, I am very shy and self conscious but I am getting better at that and speaking to people, but obviously I haven't had much practise..
Like how do you go up to a stranger and become friends? without them thinking youre weird. I can often tell if someone is like me and lonely. And I often see people at the gym and love to talk to them but I cant.. then I never see them again and I regret it. So please help me :) is it normal to be like this? and how can I talk to people, like strike up a conversation ?

Voting Results
84% Normal
Based on 38 votes (32 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 8 )
  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Anytime you have a shared interest (like at a gym) it's pretty easy to strike up a conversation about that interest, or ask a question. That is an easy lead in to, "Oh, by the way, my name is XXXXX." Then you might suggest a cup of coffee or tea, and off you go into a friendship.
    A really good way to meet people with shared interests is to join clubs, such as hiking, cycling, sailing or golf, etc. Also volunteering at homeless or animal shelters increases you chances of meeting people with mutual interests. Good luck.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    I'm exactly the same :) Want to talk?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Join a club or take a class. I actually met a great friend of mine, a few years back, when we were taking an art class together. We got to talking, getting to know one another and managed to hit it off. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    Whatever you do, DON'T join the website called Is It Norm-- oh shit!!!!!!!!!111111111

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    Well normally have some spare limbs and what not hanging about the house. So I'll just find a few that seem to fit and stitch them up.

    And voilà , meet my new friend Frankie

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    i walk up to people and just start dancing with my ipod blaring...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Pika-girl
    9 years ago

    I'm shy, too. But just get ro know someone and stuff a bit more. Ask if you want to be friends and BAM!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    People, in general, love to talk about themselves. If you are at the gym, compliment their shoes and ask where they got them. Or maybe they have a cool sticker on their water bottle. Ask what it means.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0