How do you make a guy wait for you )?

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I'm very slow with feeling trust with someone which I need to be intimate and im also a virgin because I suck at relationships. Every guy I date get upset because I say and do nothing to show my feelings and on top of that I wont sleep with him so they're like "what am I getting out of this?" So I guess I have to do something differently and theres this guy now who really likes me hes pretty shy but even he has no problem giving compliments and saying cute things sometimes which I literally never do because its lame I guess and it makes me feel vunerable which I hate. Anywayssss since things keep going to shit I guess I have to be lame and express my emotions to the guy instead of my diary or when I talk to myself and the evil spirits in my room at night. If I do this does it make a guy more fine with waiting for sex or what?
Im not even a cold person I just hate showing my feelings but like if I tell the guy I like that hey im like super into you (or whatever) and then i'm all kissing him and stuff... will he believe im into him? Because guys in the past they were like, yeah I can wait if you actually ever hugged or kissed me or in any other way showed me you liked me. And I was like... Idk I guess love is kinda gross but unfortunately I experience this useless emotion.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Honestly, you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do, but neither can anyone else. Maybe your an asexual person? Be careful.

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    You can’t, unless he’s a sap.

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  • trexagireve
    3 years ago

    Lock him in a chastity device and keep the key for as long as you want

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  • LloydAsher
    3 years ago

    Depends guy to guy. I would say most would like sex within the first few dates. Some are like you wanting to wait for marriage or some deadline.

    Just got to find the one that's willing to wait I guess.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Yeah im not religious im just not a sexual person but I can still imagine having sex with a partner but I would want it to take its time and happen naturally sort of. Much too ask in these days possibly

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      • LloydAsher
        3 years ago

        Then you have to plainly explain it to the guy at the first date. Guys are simple and perfer if you directly tell. Your case is too complex to generalize the average persons reaction to it.

        Some guys will dump you there others might stay on to see what happens. Then again guys dont wanna sound like a dick when asking for sex though too. You got to lay out the general times you would want to have sex like once a month or something.

        Main point is just give us something to work with. A diagram would be nice or a chart. Or just an explanation. It's too varied of a situation to get a good grasp of how people would react. Since its largely going to be on the individual basis.

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