How do you know when you should leave?

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I'm having issues with my marriage. When we try to talk, we argue. He says I start all the arguments, and asks me if I like making him mad, that I should just drop things and not bring them up.

My husband is paranoid that I am going to leave him for someone else. He has told me he doesn't like people looking at me. He doesn't want me to go anywhere unless I take the kids with me because, and I quote "It would make it harder to cheat if you have the kids with you". He doesn't like my friends because "they take you away from me". He is constantly saying that he hopes people die who take my time away from him.

I've never cheated on him. I am all over him all the time, and he says he is "not in the mood". I get turned down for sex all the time.

His friends tell him how lucky he is to have a woman like me. He says he loves me and would do anything for me.

Am I delaying the inevitable? Is it normal to feel like I have no choice but to go on without him?

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Based on 37 votes (13 yes)
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  • verppisces030990
    15 years ago

    if he's accusing you of cheating, then its very likely that he's cheating... don't stay with him.

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  • maya617
    12 years ago

    He sounds insecure and clearly doesn't trust u. What is a marriage without trust? Tell him you'll try counselling for the kids, but if he doesn't change, leave him.

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    He sounds controlling i would say leave him but i am not for divorce in most cases and u have children tell him you want couples counseling or ur leaving if he dnt agree leave come bk in two wks and ask again then if he still disagrees leave for good he needs to know he isnt in controll of u

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    15 years ago

    Your marriage will never work if you are looking for an excuse to leave. Find an excuse to make it work.

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    • sansimage
      14 years ago

      i like this

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  • deepthought33
    14 years ago

    Jeez. Some of you seem to act like leaving your spouse is as easy as packing a bag and hittin' the road. The problems I am having with my husband worry me daily but I still hate how people throw the word divorce out there like its a trip to the grocery store...including my husband. sigh.

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  • sansimage
    14 years ago

    That's too bad, the irony is that his paranoia about you leaving him is actually what's driving you away. I'm sorry... you should try marriage counseling.

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  • dianas2ds
    15 years ago

    being that i'm in almost the same situation you are in giving advise wouldn't be good I too am uncertain of my marriage but i've have a gut feeling my husband is cheating he rather talk to a stranger than talk to me and sex what the heck is that?! so I feel for you it sucks when your in love but not loved back all i know is if my husbands leaves he won't find a woman like me who has put up with his bull all these years he will find some young thing who wants more than he can give I say lets all kick jerks to the curve LOL I wish you all the luck take care

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  • Chrissy_23
    15 years ago

    u shouldnt stand for that! IF HE DOE'SNT trust u y stay with him. i would tell him if he doe'snt talk to u u'll leave!

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