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I'm 20(M). I have been in 14 relationships (give or take). When it all starts off,everything is as exciting and involved as it can possibly be. But in a couple of months or so.. it fades off real fast.. and the inevitable happens.. so... To the people who have loved/ been with the same person for a year or two or longer.. how do you know that this is it.?? How does true love feel ? Please share.
14 relationships? Wtf how ? Do you ask out every female you see
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love isn't real.. it's all just brain chemical reactions and shit and that "feeling" always fades whether it be 4 months or 4 years., and i can tell that your the type not built for lasting relationships.. be self aware and get out of fantasy land..
I jumped from relationship to relationship as well, until I left one relationship for what was my most recent girlfriend. I can tell you that I definitely loved the two girls I was with before this one, but there was always something missing. If there wasn't then I wouldn't have left, or cheated, but I did. She ended up walking out on me after 3 years and it has crushed me ever since. But to get back to your question, to put it as simply as I possibly can...... You will know that you've found true love, when all that you want to do is to day in and day out do anything you can to make that person happy and make that person smile. You see because you will realize it's true love when you yourself gets true joy and true happiness by making someone else happy. Your happiness will come from their happiness, that's true love.
Gonna respond to it one by one.
1) No, its not always (infact, rarely) physical at first. I genuinely like them.
2) i also had a 1yr+ relationship with a childhood frnd. But do you feel content ? Don't you ever get emotionally connected to any of your other female frnds ? Has any of that never led to dating ?
3) is there a chance that i'm not mature enough to think about these things just yet but it will come to me later ?
Thanks 4 ur rply.
Maybe the reason it's not working out for you is that you keep chasing that hormonal high of being in love. True love is way deeper than that.
See, When you find someone physically attractive your caveman brain kicks in, rewarding you with happy chemicals that make you want to be close to that person and make some babies. That's all good and well for the survival of the species and all but if you want a lasting relationship it has to be more than "feelings".
I'm certainly no expert, but I have been in a relationship for almost two years now (I know, that's like almost nothing, but still). To be honest with this girl it wasn't lightning or love at first sight. She was a friend first and a really good one. But overtime we grew closer, we had the same humor a lot of similar interests and desires in life. I fell in love with her the more I got to know her.
And here's something that's gonna sound real unromantic, but I'll tell you anyway:
I made a list of the pros and cons of getting into a relationship with her. I know ... that doesen't fit into a disney movie. But if you want to be sure you HAVE to take a step back and look at things without all the hormones. What will your daily routine look like, what will you guys be able to do with each other, what do you both want in life?
If those things don't add up one of you would have to change. And change is really really hard.