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lets say you really like a guy and then you move states and you can never see him again
| Think of all the negative sides of him until you are sick of him | 22 | |
| just try not to think about him until it becomes a habit | 11 | |
| just wait for however long it takes to naturally get over him | 36 | |
| cut off all connection to him | 21 | |
| Other (Add a comment) | 5 |
Stop thinking about him, stop talking about him.Think of him negatively. Think of all of the imperfections. Usually I look towards friends. I ask them to prevent me from thinking and talking about him. Also, I ask to prevent them of talking to them. I've had problems with this guy and I can't stop texting him. I changed his contact name to Tanner You Don't Need 'em K.It persuaded me to stop texting him, but you mentally need to do that not just physically. prevent looking at his facebook, twitter, myspace, etc. if you can't do that, delete it.Rubber band tech. wear the rubber band on your wrist and whenever you think of him snap it a couple times. You have to train yourself not to, it's like learning how to walk&Talk again. Hope this helped a bit (:
"Stop thinking about him. Think of him negatively"
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Honestly, the issue with all of these answers is that they ultimately all focus on HIM. The harder you try not think about pink elephants, the more that image will pop into your head. What you need to do is put yourself in a situation where pink elephants are not of your concern. Focus on yourself and how you don't need to be dependent on external validation - have fun by yourself or with friends, not because you just need a distraction, but because you actually want to. You don't need to train yourself to have some Pavlovian disgust response to him; you just need to become comfortable enough with yourself that even if it hurts, it doesn't hurt enough to ruin you.
Cut off all connection to him including all his family members and mutual friends. Burn every picture you have of him. Take every single thing that reminds you of him out of your room and put it in a box for the mean time. Listen to music that pumps you up. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT listen to lovey sappy music and drown yourself in tears all day.
How to get over someone......find someone else and enjoy yourself......the past is where it is...the past....move on....
You can't fill a cup that's already full. Focus completely on your life, your goals, your friends and you'll find he's out of the picture without much conscious effort.
natural time and trying not to think about him much.
keep yourself busy with other things... think about him when you must but think about it like a fresh start
Sounds like a teenager problem. I've been a grown-up (well, legally anyway) for far too long to even think about this shit.
I guess what I did as a kid was probably sulk for a short time, hate this new place I moved to, hate my parents for making me come here, then end up meeting new people and getting involved in stuff and just replace that part of my life with other things. Phase it out. No need to think of him negatively, why would you do that?
Then 10 years from now, you can look him up on facebook and see he's bald and fat and gross, and be like, phew....dodged a bullet there.
i like this answer :)
im 20, so not a teen anymore, i hate asking these kinds of questions cause it sounds so childish but i really did love this guy a lot and i need to get over it lol
the problem is, im taking a gap year in the US (actually just moved from slovakia so this is a whole new culture for me) and i dont drive or have a job so its is very hard to meet people or do anything at the moment.
Well when you're that young, things do seem a whole lot more significant than they actually are. You have limited experience, so the small experiences you have had seem like the end-all be-all. Truth is, there's so much more in store for you, and you'll love it. You're still forming who YOU are as a person. You've still got a lot of growing to do.
I can't even really remember who all I dated when I was 19, or who I had a crush on. I'm sure at the time, I had obsessive crushes and thought I'd be with this or that person forever. So, I know how you feel right now. But in time you will see it as a rather minor event, if even memorable at all. You might even end up saying 'what was I thinking??', I know I've had that happen a LOT.
Just look out for you first and foremost, don't do anything foolish like give up a job or study opportunity to be with a guy, you will absolutely regret that! Things will fall into place, you'll see. Likewise, if you're meant to be with him, then trust that that will happen in time too, when it's the proper time.
Is there a reason why you're not working? Like something holding you back? Do you have public transportation where you live? If you can give me a clue as to what type/size of town or area you live in, I could maybe try to help you think of things you could do to occupy yourself. I'm pretty resourceful.
Well i hope you are right about me being young enough to still have a lot ahead of me. Being in school and having european friends, ive grown up around thinking that at 20 youre an adult and you should already have your life planned and nothing really changes much afterwards. Because of that i feel a lot of pressure to do EVERYTHING right now. Im the only one of my friends taking a gap year while they are all in college in the UK partying, making friends, driving, studying, getting jobs, being in more serious relationships, even a few went to africa to teach kids english :( I just feel like such a waste of space right now, literally doing nothing with my time. I feel stuck, moving countries means you have to start ALL over and at this stage in my life theres a LOT to do over again.
On the other hand my parents believe that first, i should be living with them until after college, that i dont have enough money or am responsibe enough to live alone. That public transportation is dangerous (i live in Las vegas) and i should learn how to drive (which im starting to do). And that getting a job is not necessary until after college. Basically when i tell them that i dont feel fullfilled and im bored and wasting my youth they say that im being spoiled. But i dont want to make it my parents fault that im not doing anything. I think their views are reasonable, even though my friends say they are seriously controlling.
About the guy, i guess the real issue is that i have too much free time to think about him and hold on to the past.