How do you feel about friends with benefits?

I've never seen someone actually being FRIENDS and FUCKING ever go down successfully.

I have seen people be able to fuck folks that they kind of know and it go down well, but as far as the friends thing, usually one gets attatched and the other is like "whoa, we're just friends" and it kind of fucks up the friendship for two people that were anything more than lukewarm for eachother to begin with.

Usually, the person that accepts it from the person that suggests it is the one that gets burned the hardest. They accepted it with hopes that a romantic bond would form, or they had some unrecognized romantic feelings for the other person and saw the fwb thing as their "chance".

Not saying it's a bad thing or a bad idea, but from my experience and the experience of others, if one person had any romantic feelings for the other to begin with, which is usually the person that accepts the deal under the pretense that "we're just friends, and we will always be just friends", they get burned unless it actually becomes mutually romantic. I know it works out for some people, they fuck someone else and find someone romantic and committ, or they just fuck whoever, but someone gets burned, the majority of the time from what I have seen.

If it doesn't make either one of you " Jealous" if you were to be sexual with anyone else, than I say its alright. You should never be jealous of your friends. If you are, than there is a problem with your relationship.

I think I would like a Star Trek the Next Generation Love-life.

Now, that might sound stupid, confusing, and/or terribly non-sane, but let me elaborate.

On TNG, while people would get into long-term or more closed relationships, even marriages, a lot of shit went down where people would just engage in whatever with whoever they felt like, mutually, depending on each situation. An example: Counselor Troy and Riker. If you don't understand that, just watch TNG already, ya noobs (that was a joke...)

Plus, they were in space, and who doesn't want to join the space-sex club?

I think it just depends on the friendship. "Friends with benefits" is just another name for "Open relationship with a generally low level of romantic attachment" Which is obviously normal and fine, if you examine a human nature which has transcended the petty violence and jealousies of our past. And hell, if you guys can do that, go for it. Just be aware that it might not result in exactly what you want, go with the flow, and COMMUNICATE with the other person about what you want, what they want, while not being a nag.

Fuck yeah for flexible relationships.

Other: haven't had a friend like that, so I wouldn't know.