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I just found out my wife has been cheating on me with our neighbor. Well, I found out about it about 4 months ago. Now I refuse to have sex with her cause I just cant stand the thought of her screwing our neighbor. Is this normal? Will I ever want to have sex with her again??
You ask the wrong questions-
Will you want to have sex with her again?
Heck, the questions should be-'can we re-build out marriage'.'Can I remain married to a woman who has cheated'?
'Will she remain faithful in the rest of our married lives together?'
'Do I love her', 'Does she love me' (if she does, why is she having sex with another).
Approach your neighbour with a bat, and ask him the questions you want to.
I agree with Lockets , don't stoop to her level tho by sleeping with some one just to make it even . However you do have to deal with it , because u will not stop thinking about it , sex will never b the same (for you ) she'll just keep getting it from the neighbor =\ Good Luck
First of all, don't go screw everyone else, it is actually worse on her if you dont, because then she is the only one that has done anything wrong and will either wonder when you are going to get her back or come to understand that relationships don't work that way and you don't want to hurt her the way she hurt you, thus gaining respect for you and possibly resolving the emotional reasons that she probably did this in the first place. Secondly, she needs to know that the reason you are not doing anything back to her is for you because you don't want to have that kind of guilt hanging over your head, and because it would still not make things right, because you would only be doing it because she had done it and so it still really doesn't compare to what she did. Thirdly, and to answer your actual question don't worry to much about having sex w/ her right now...if you relationship works out, that will come back as well. Try building your communication with eachother, ask ANY questions that you have and expect her to answer them. Become friends and build into it, tell her how you feel about having sex with her right now, and why you feel that way. Also, try just being naked together, no pressure for sex, lay w/ her, have her get on top of you, or just hold eachother close. Keep doing that, and at some point the spark will likely come back. I am not giving blind advice, I cheated on my husband a few years ago, something I will regret forever, and I told him that I did, I couldnt live with it, he kicked me out for a few days, then we began talking, we talked ALOT, I think we know just about everything about eachother now, we started off just treating it like a friendship that we were building back. After a little while of that, he really wanted to have sex w/ me but was afraid how he would feel about it, so we both got naked, and I layed there w/ him then got on top of him and he just held me close and we talked and cried...now it has been 4 years, we have pretty much moved on from that point and have a better relationship than we did before it. We also had a baby this year. You can get past it, you just have to love the person and be willing to put in a lot of hard work and everyone has to take blame for their own faults. Hope this helps.
Leave that skank and bust a nut in the neighbors mailbox as a 'thanks a lot, buddy'
my husband cheated on me w 6 girls the entire time we were married and i found out. i cutt him out of my life. i filed for divorce and i'm fighting for my baby girl right now.
you should break up with her because once a liar and cheater Always A LIAR AND CHEATER!
move on with your life throw her out. you have every right to be angry, and pissed. just don't slap her or anything like that.
because she may use the fake he hit me to the cops
Marrige is a sacred bond of trust and once that trust is broken it can be hard to reverse. Its normal.
divorce her, I would probably kicked her ass for lying to me in the church
Fuck other women. And if she gets mad abt it. Just bring up how she cheated with your neighbour
I usually wouldnt say this but you should have sex with an extremely hot neighbor of yours! see if she likes it!
You are looking at this from the wrong angle. If it were me l would be asking myself "why him?" what's he got to offer my wife that l can't give her?"
The average American brings a 6 1/2 inch erection to the bedroom. Now if this neighbor is hung like a stallion ... and you're not... you might think about moving on. His bigger than your tool is probably what she found so exciting..... and it won't go away.
On the other hand if he is average then stop worrying about competing with your neighbor andask yourself, "what is it he gave her that l was not giving?" Could be affection, attention, compliments or simply being more romantic.
Maybe he really listens when she talks... Most of us don't bother to listen to our woman.
If none of these apply then perhaps the woman is just a bitch in heat and nothing short of a chastity belt is going to keep guys out of her panties....
First of all, forget some of the comments here, #2 Talk to her about it. Be open and honest. You need to find out why. use your better judgment, if you love her find out why then work from there. If she still loves you, you have a choice to make stay or go its your choice. Just remember, People make mistakes maybe she did. Or it maybe something you did..
The neighbor ???? Are they still living there???? I'd never get over that. I'd have to at least move if not get a divorce.
Whether fighting will bring peace&happiness in to our home? If there is a smoke then there is a fire. Angry is not at all going to bring any good things. You have to discuss this matter with her and try to find out the reason she may have. If there is a genuine reason you can rectify yourself. Also you can make a secret enquiry about her past life and character. Suppose if she is a nymphomaniac/sex addict or has a previous history of cheating you can divorce her.
Since it seems like you have decided to stay together, you need to find out why she cheated. Most of the time affairs are symptoms of a bad relationship. Eventually you will have to decide to get over it or give her the boot. Most of us, the first reaction is to get rid of her, but there is usually more to every story than what we here. Most of the time an affair really isn't a surprise. To stay together is going to be a tough road, you will have to forgive and resolve some major issues you guys obviously have. You need to do a lot of talking and a lot of soul searching and decide what will be best for you in the long run.
I wonder why people are so stupid that write such comments.Dont pay attention to this comments.My suggestion is that you leave her cause she doesnt love you.Revenge is not solution.She slept with neigbhour you will sleep with another and then?You will live together and take revenge from each other?