How do you convince a friend you dont want to be sexual relationship?

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How do you convince a naggy friend that you dont want to be in a sexual relationship? When they keep asking and insisting? Whats more annoying is they are already in a relationship and tend to call on me when their partner is busy. I honestly dont understand why they dont just break up with them if they feel that unhappy and neglected.

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  • gummy_jr
    8 years ago

    Fuck, I would just tell their partner and have them sort it out. But that might be bad advice /:

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    • VinnyB
      8 years ago

      I think it's great advice, it is exactly what I was going to say. If the person can't take a hint, they deserve it.

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  • Fall_leaves
    8 years ago

    That's kind of messed up, why do you consider them a friend when they're using you? Either tell them it's not going to happen or end the friendship. You don't want to be the person they cheat with.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      How are they using me? I generally ask them for favors but I dont feel like supplying a taken person with sex on the side. I wish they would just ask for normal favors.

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      • Fall_leaves
        8 years ago

        "Whats more annoying is they are already in a relationship and tend to call on me when their partner is busy."

        They contact you when their partner is busy and ask for sex? Have you had a sexual relationship with them before or given them a reason to believe you'll sleep with them? You shouldn't have to tell them twice that you don't want to sleep with them and if they were really a friend they wouldn't nag you to hookup.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          No they call when their partner is busy to go out and hang. Like lets say they had a movie they wanted to watch but partner isnt interested ill go, if they want to go buy food but partner is busy I go, if they want to go to the amusement park and partner hates coasters I go. I never gave them sex so I not sure how you think they would be using me. They are just nagging at this point. I never slept with them. Like I kind of considered it but that was back when I first met them in HS I was like 10th grade and they already had a partner so I dropped it. Its odd there is a lot of things that their partner is apparently never willing to do with them. I mean their partner is totally hot but I curious as to how happy they actually are with this person.

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago

            This is funny, is this person paying for you on all these trips for food and fun?

            If the answer is yes that's why they keep asking for sex.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              No they dont pay for anything, I pay for myself. They would never pay for anything.

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    YOU TELL THEM NO

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Did you bluntly tell them "no"? If so, tell them that you're getting pissed off about them doing this for the fact that one, you told them no already and they should understand that you're not interested in them in that way, and two, they are already in a relationship and you despise cheaters. That way it's more of an aggressive no that should send him or her the message.

    If that doesn't work then threaten them. Tell them that if this continues that you can no longer be their friend and you will contact their partner.

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago

    Wow, congratulations, you're their side chick/second choice.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I would dump that person like a steaming bowel movement. I once had a very dear male friend who told me what he wanted to do to my body despite my being happily married at the time. I was totally horrified and disgusted so I had to dump that bastard. It took me a week, but I ended a twelve year friendship. No regrets!
    ;-)

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  • notmyfirstaccount
    7 years ago

    Keep telling them no, and if they refuse to acknowledge that, block them. If they continue shit somehow, take law action.

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