How do parents live after their only child dies?

I was told that my premature baby would be dead by the morning and that night I gave up. I was in intense pain and I relaxed and was ready to let go when my husband walked into the hospital room at 10.20pm! I couldn't believe it - he pulled me back from the brink. And our child lived!

I don't know how any parent keeps going after the death of their child. I would never have lifted my head off the pillow again :o(

So terribly sad to even consider :o(

You'd need to be a parent to answer this question, because most people don't (and can't) understand the feelings of a parent until they actually become one. (If you say you wouldn't feel anything if your kid died, you must not have one or you don't care for your child...)

It takes time to heal but eventually they should be able to live nearly as before...

Well if I had a kid and it died...I would move the hell on.

Your parents must be pretty immature to confess something like that to you. Why worry about what they do?

Let the "dead" care for their own. You can go to them but they will not come to you.

If anything happened to my child. My life would just be over. I honestly don't know how people go on after something so horrific. I suppose though if they have more thay one chiild though they probably feel that they have to go on for them. If losing a child doesn't put someone in a mental institution (sorry I couldn't think of another way to express it) then I defy anything to. xx

they live with the enormous gap in their heart for the rest of their lives. They have no choice but to move on because life does;t stop just because they feel like it should. They eventually have more children, or find something else that gives them joy all the while knowing the love and grief of loosing their baby will always be there.

most of them don't fuck anymore.

People who would contemplate suicide for any event need to educate themselves and take better care of themselves.

Media will try to convince you to be ignorant and give yourself over to certain emotions, but if it doesn't serve a purpose you are being fooled. This is the after-effect of a culture built on the writings of a playwright.

A playwright's job is to make every emotion more intense and artistic, and that comes in the way of putting yourself in a position to assess things from a state of control.

Mothers and fathers shouldn't give themselves so fully to emotions of childcare. It doesn't serve the child or the parents. Same chemicals in play as falling in love...artificial sources of emotion.

Thats also why i feel extremely sad for those that do not have the ability to have children. They are all we have at the end of the day, all we live for and through them we live forever. Thats why i think parents who can have children but kill themselves after losing one child (not undermining the absolute torment it must cause) just simply give up and are being a little selfish.

I am not a parent but its a dream i have had since i was a kid myself to one day be the best dad. I cant say i totally understand how it must feel but i think parents who lose their only child should find the strength to go on and find new happiness. My dads friend lost his first and second son at birth, but today he has a son and daughter and all i can think is that they managed to find a light in the darkness. For parents who openly admit to their children that they would kill themselves, they are weak and should be ashamed. To be a parent you have to be strong, to go through thick and thin for that kid and that is that. For parents the words 'give up' shouldnt even exist in their vocabulary.

I am married but we do not have any kids but honestly? If my child died, I'd f***ing lose it.

I am putting so much effort into my life right now-college full time, working full time, quitting smoking, joining a good church, staying off of drugs an out of trouble and -trying- to keep my health together so that my children can have good childhood's and a good mother and father- I already love my kids enough to do that for them and they are not even around yet. So if I did have a kid or kids and they did die on me... well... I'd lose it. Hell, I don't even know how women get over miscarriages.

Well I would say for the most part they would live on, but absolutely they would never, ever be the same again.

In my mind it would be understandable if they attempted or did succeed in suicide in all honesty.

This would have to be the most horrific scenario I can imagine. I have a friend who lost his 10 year old grandchild. I attended the funeral and bawled like a little sissy...caskets...just shouldn't be that small.
Anyway..he's never been the same since.