How do i tell her i love her...?

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Its been years and I still think I have feelings for this girl. I'm 21 and a female that used to be close with her. I am straight and so is she but she's my exception!
I've never ever told anyone in my life except resort for the help of is it normal people because I feel I would not be judged as much. I don't know if my friend feels the same and I think she used to value me but not sure if she still does.
I had a fall out with her but then I did eventually try and repair it. I text her and told her I missed her and she just said something like "aww that's horrible" and explained how's she isn't a social person anymore. I then text that you mean a lot and I just don't feel like I'm part of your life. My ultimate wish would be if she had told me I'm her life etc. She didn't even tell me I mean a lot too just told text me I am part of her life just not as much as I used to be.
Do I tell her how I feel?
I'm shit scared but for so long iv wanted to tell her. She had a bf and she has said things in the past that made me wonder if there was something between us?

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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

I think she has made her feelings quite clear to you, even if you don't wish to hear her.
If you are straight, go get yourself a boy friend and leave the poor girl alone. If the friendship is real, it will rekindle on it's own, but don't ever expect her to reciprocate a physical relationship, if that is what you are seeking.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  She has said things in the past that made me wonder if she felt something for me
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    That was then, this is now.
    
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    8 years ago
    
    True
    
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Arm0se

8 years ago

https://youtu.be/1aYlG3aFBog

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- Arm0se
  
  8 years ago
  
  No but really. Maybe you should just come out and say it. Tell her you two need to talk and tell her. ^-^
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    8 years ago
    
    Yea I'm pretty certain I'll eventually tell her...
    
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JD777

8 years ago

If it's true that you are both straight how can you expect that there will be any romantic relationship??? Assuming you're actually latent lesbians, stop with the freaking texting and have an actual face-to-face conversation with her.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Feelings are sometimes established with the wrong person- it happens you know. I can't have a conversation with her in person as she lives aages away! :\
  
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8 years ago

forget about her.

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Aries

8 years ago

If you are in love with another female , I highly doubt you are straight . I think you just haven't met any other females you adore as much as her . I think it's pretty apparent how she feels especially when she gave you that "I am not really social anymore" line . I think you see , she obviously isn't into females and you should leave it alone . If she becomes single , go ahead and tell her because I wouldn't want to throw away a chance at love but for now ... figure yourself out and worry less about this girl who is dating a guy currently.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  I am except I just felt something for her.
  She says that now but she said otherwise about a year ago. She said things that told me I was truly important to her and it honestly felt genuine when she said it.
  
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chained_rage

8 years ago

"I've never ever told anyone in my life except resort for the help of IIN people because I feel I would not be judged as much"

Lol :D

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JD777

8 years ago

*puts forehead on palm*. If you can't be with her in person, how the heck do you think........ Aw never mind.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Well I would obviously do something about it if it were mutual.
  
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LuxM4G

8 years ago

I believe you have some doubts concerning your sexuality. She just happen to be the only girl you have loved emotionally in your short life. It's important to ask if you feel sexually attracted aswell, well do you?

From an pragmatic analytical point of view It would be unwise to do it so, because apparently she's totally straight(speculating), and that could constitute some issues that would be negative on your friendship and yourself, even herself.

You already know this, but your judgement is clouded by the strong attraction that you feel. I'd advice you to try and build up your friendship and establish a stronger emotional link, try to perceive if she feels the same way or it's simply biromantic. If not, all you gotta do is move on.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Idk , all I know if that I felt a strong emotional connection at one point. I think it was mutual because she said things that seemed intimate so more than friend sort of way.
  How do you mean by biromatic?
  I try moving on but all I think is "what if?"
  
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  - LuxM4G
    
    8 years ago
    
    "Someone who enjoys behavior typically associated with dating and love, like cuddling, hugging, gift-giving, love notes, but probably not kissing, etc. and enjoys it with both genders, without necessarily desiring subsequent sexual experience. Biromantic people can be straight, bisexual, homosexual, or asexual.
    Jane went out with a girl and bought her this beautiful bracelet. Then they cuddled and watched a movie at her apartment. They don't make out or anything like that. They only desire physical relations with men. They must be biromantic and heterosexual instead of bisexual."
    
    Taken from Urban Dictionary.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      It sounds like biromatic relationships lean on the potential bi sexual category if you ask me..
      Although I can see where you're coming from. I'd say that her feelings lean towards the biromantic scale where as mine I'm not sure if I'd like anything more. I don't even know that if I were to kiss her properly , if I'd like it..
      
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      - LuxM4G
        
        8 years ago
        
        You won't know for sure until you try it, it may get awkward later after or not, you both might even end up liking it doing it with each other, I'm just saying ;)
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        8 years ago
        
        Thanks ..hmm...
        
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