How do i stop feeling guilty over a break up?

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How to stop feeling guilty over a break up?
It s been about a week since I broke up with this girl I was on and off with for 11 months. We re both in college and she was the honestly one of the nicest people I ever met, and I took NO pleasure in breaking up with her. But the reason I felt like it wasn t working out was because at times she could be overbearing, possessive and even a bit selfish. Sometimes I d mention to her I d be goin out with some mates and then she d get upset saying "I guess you d rather be with other girls/boys then." And that d really upset me. Not to mention, she even used to buy me things like stuffed teddys and other gifts.

One time I wasn t able to save her a seat for this college sport event, I sent her a text saying that I couldn t save a seat, and she sent me a text saying, "oh ok well f**k you then." And that really annoyed/upset me

Other time I feel like she d try and passive-aggressively guilt trip me, and text things such as "I m going out for a drive, I need to clear my head." Or "it s so lonely here, I feel sad, and my tummy hurts." And it d tear my heart up but at the same time frustrate me because of how I d KNOW that I m being manipulated almost on purpose.
The thing is, I m being torn between doing what I know is right and past guilt from when I had my heart broken my other girls (be it rejection or goodbyes etc).

What do you guys thinks?

I really want to be a better person, and things like this that make me feel like absolute s**t.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    I think it's normal for you to feel bad, but the truth is that you did what was best for you because she's obviously not emotionally stable and may very well be mentally ill. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

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    • sillygirl77
      7 years ago

      Agree, it doesn't sound like a healthy situation for the OP!

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Mentally ill? Oh here we go again, instant psychiatric diagnoses of an unknown person

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      • sillygirl77
        7 years ago

        RoseIsabella said "may well be mentally ill." That's NOT diagnosing. She's saying there's a possibility. Ellenna, I saw you write in response to someone's post that they may have OCD. That is a mental illness to. I have it diagnosed by a psychiatrist, which is why I noticed you wrote it... having it and all! There was nothing wrong with you stating they may have OCD. It was a suggestion of something to look into and you also suggested seeing a dr I think.

        RoseIsabella has done nothing here that you haven't done yourself, yet I've seen you attack her twice for it (maybe more, but I didn't see it). I've seen you attack more than one people on here including me. I felt like saying something in this case since you seem to be attacking someone for something I've seen you do yourself!

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I don't think you should feel at all guilty for doing what was right for you

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