How do i start a relationship? (iin?)

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Honestly I'm a late bloomer and quite the loser. I've never had a relationship or been close to one. Not a single date nor the master of flirting. I'm just null in this category, but I don't want to be like that anymore.

How do I make someone else want to be with me when I'm interested in them? It been hard enough when I thought I was after a man now that I realize I want the total opposite I'm even worse! All I do is worry about if every women I meet is straight. Most women I meet are usually straight and taken when I finally meet that one curved women, they too turn out to be taken. Nowadays, I don't even try. I'm at lost I can never act on my attraction for another women. How do I do it? How do I show I'm interested without coming on too strong. How do I meet someone who will be interested in me? Right now I feel like I'm going to die alone. Not one person has ever wanted to be with me, what should I do? How can I meet other lesbians? I don't want to be one of those people who tries to meet people online nor do I want to go scouting in gay clubs/bars. I want to meet someone and form a relationship, do you have any advice for this desperate lesbian chick?

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  • jeebley
    10 years ago

    I have a few friends in a similar position. It's difficult for anyone without much relationship experience to figure out how to do it!
    Do you ever ask girls to hang out? I think the implications can be nice and ambiguous without seeming to come on too strong.

    And meeting online or going to clubs might make you feel silly or desperate - but honestly you might have to get over that - maybe there's a stigma to those things, but they could just be great ways of meeting new people.
    Also, I think it's best to have the goal and mindset of just trying to make friends - you don't want to reek of desperation! :)
    And try and find your spark! Your allure!

    Hopefully you get some more practical advice as well...

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  • Crusades
    10 years ago

    Date your mom.

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    • smsk03
      9 years ago

      I don't understand why people feel the need to say such things to others. Was that your ploy to being funny? People come on here for advice, who knows what they are going through, you could at least try. This website has become just like all else, people trying to socially climb and it makes me sad.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      10 years ago

      How can you say such a thing! Her mum may well still be married to her dad. I'd go after the grandma, more likely to be single ;).

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      • Crusades
        10 years ago

        You like old wrinkly pussy?

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        • SkullsNRoses
          10 years ago

          When it comes with the moral high ground, yes.

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  • wetemke
    10 years ago

    Maybe you can join a dating site. Explain it the way you just have to us and I'm sure understanding people will begin to contact you. Always meet in a public place for safety. You will meet like minded people this way and who knows, maybe the love of your life will show up......

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Develop an open, friendly, secure personality.

    If you want to speak to someone you are attracted to, speak to them like you would a normal person. The only way I know of flirting is to just be friendly and relaxed with someone and to try to make sure they're comfortable in my presence and talking to me.

    If you want to meet other gay women, you could look for a local LGBT society or group with regular meet-ups. If you go to college or university this should be very easy, because all universities I know in my country have an LGBT society. Even if you don't, lots of cities have a place for people who are LGBT to meet.

    You will always have to look online to find these places or people, though. I'm afraid there's no way around that unless you go to a gay club or a gay bar, which I actually think is a better idea. I think you should at least try that out and see if it's for you. Clubbing is intimidating for a lot of people, but you don't have to dance or drink if you don't want to. People there are friendly and will often talk to you without you having to do anything, so long as you give off friendly vibes (open posture, not staring at your feet or avoiding eye contact etc.). I really think you should at least try it.

    Next time you do meet a lesbian woman, even if she's in a relationship you could still try to become friends and ask her advice and help so you might meet someone in the future.

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    10 years ago

    Uuhh, fetlife.com? I dunno im not a lesbian. Wear a studded rainbow belt?

    Im not sure where you're going to find a lesbian just in public unless you spend a lot of time in the women's camo dept of an outdoors outfitter.

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