How do i respond to this text?

I am a new divorcee and so am in new territory. I was just recently told that as soon as our divorce is final my ex has someone in-line to start dating. I wasn't even told in person and so I was just wondering what the best response would be on my end.
If I was to hazard a guess as to why it was done like this it would be because I would know soon anyway but there was discomfort with doing it in person, because we still temporarily live together though ex is currently out of town and because our kid will still require us to communicate.
Obviously it'll get brought up again, but as far as the text goes I'm half tempted to ignore it and go on as usual. Either way, though, I don't wish to come off as upset or immature. What would you do?

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  • howaminotmyself

    ignore it

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  • Jweezee

    Tell him/her: "you're waiting until it's final? Hmm... I guess I could have done that, too"

    Jk. The only purpose, that I can see, of telling you that is to anger or sadden you. You're getting divorced. There is no reason to show him/her you are affected by their attempt to wound you. Ignore it.

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    • Jweezee

      Now that you've edited the story It makes my comment a look a little assumptive. but twatever, I'd still ignore it.

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      • deepthought33

        Ha, yea sorry. I just wanted to clarify a bit more. My original came off, imo, as though the two of of us had had no contact and then suddenly out of the blue...this text.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

    Soooooo, your single?.

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  • ㅤㅤㅤ

    Ignore it. Not worth your time. Btw sorry abnout the divorce, you'll get through it :(

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  • volvonut84

    I would crush the phone...they are evil.

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  • deepthought33

    Ugh wtf my tablet completely betrayed me! Before I made this post I was trying to find something already existing (all I found was stupid stuff like "how to get back at your ex" or " How to get back your ex"). I came here because I wasn't finding anything helpful.
    Anyway, he asks to use my tablet just now and the browser loads an article I was looking at TWO days ago about coping with you ex moving on or whatever it was I'd found. Needless to say, I feel kinda dumb right now lol.

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  • Sog

    Don't give that bitch any satisfaction. Delete text and move on with your life.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Just ignore it. If you must say something then I would say something like, "so what" or "meh, I don't have the time or inclination to care about all of that" or "we're divorced, he's none of my business now".

    I tend to agree with Jweezee. I feel like the person could be trying to manipulate you so as to elicit a response of some kind. I think the person could be a gossip who's trying to stir some shit up about you. Some people are addicted to drama, gossips are usually like that, and tend to be quite the toxic people.

    It's probably best to not respond. I'm sorry about your divorce, I've been through two of them, unfortunately. I dunno where you are but there's a class that's offered at local churches that might help, it's called Divorce Care. I wish you all the best in your newly single life.

    http://www.divorcecare.org/

    P.S. I'd beware of anyone who's really excited or upbeat and sharing what could be construed as bad news.

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  • Shrunk

    I would just ignore it, can't really think of anything that wouldn't be construed as upset/childish because it sounds like she is looking for any reply to make her feel like you still give a damn. I would say "ok then you might want to stop texting other men and focus on him :)" but that probably sounds "upset" to her.. Idk :/

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  • thegypsysailor

    You got it; ignore it. What do you care what she does, right? Don't show any interest in her life; you two are divorced. She's just trying to get under your skin.
    My second wife was 12 years younger than the first. My third is nearly 30 years younger than the second. That's how you show an ex what you think of them; old hags, both! Get out there and date beautiful women and think not one thought about what they be doing, because you are having way too much fun, now that you are rid of them.

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    • deepthought33

      While I could see myself as growing into a bit of a cougar as I get older, I'm hoping for a bit more maturity in my next couplings.

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