How do i overcome my hesitation/cowardice?

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I have been friends with someone for a short while now. This friendship has quickly progressed into something more than friends, albeit not in a sexual manner. The most physical contact we have had was spooning as I slept over at his house (neither of us intended this). Things are clearly headed in the direction that things will develop, and as someone aged 20 with no relationship/sexual experience, I'm nervous and hesitant).

However he is perfect for me and while I often think about and love the idea of being in a relationship with him, I'm scared. How do I overcome this? Will I not be scared if further developments happen (such as kissing him, having sex, and so on)? I was not awkward when spooning, and I feel that this may be something I would normally feel awkward about. Any advice on how to overcome my cowardice?

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    10 years ago

    It's like pulling a splinter out of your foot, pull it out the instant it gets in there and you're done with it in a few seconds. If you sit there and look at it, it's going to hurt more and more and you make a big deal out of it in your head when it's not so bad.

    I mean, when it comes to those moments where it's your move, you'll get a little feeling in your gut, that's the instant you need to act, dont think, do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I can not thank you enough for this. Most helpful comment I have ever received on iin. Thank you. x

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  • Jfdp
    10 years ago

    you know the person well enough to be sleeping over them, ergo this person wont dump u just because you showed a little awkwardness, u go man!) . . .or girl . ..whatever i'm sorry I dint read that part)

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  • halfemptyhalffull
    10 years ago

    If you weren't awkward spooning, you won't feel awkward doing more when the time is right. What's the rush?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Spooning does not require any skill. What if I am a bad kisser? I just worry.

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      • Hayze
        10 years ago

        Hey anon,

        Please try not to worry about being a "bad" or "good" kisser. This is not a skill but rather a technique that you develop and personalize. One of the skills involved is intuition; reading body language and other signals from your partner. The first kiss is almost always awkward for everyone because each time we are trying to interpret a new person and act accordingly.

        To help you feel more prepared and less nervous have a look at the many kissing advice clips on YouTube. You may learn some techniques and therefore feel a little more confident.

        Remember: kissing is a communication. Take it slow at first, read from each other's non-verbal signals and progress from there.

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  • Buttslut
    10 years ago

    Show him your butt He'll go wild! And then he will ioncecomewaytoohard in your face.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      rofl

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