How do i make myself more approachable?

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I am newly single, and sadly have noticed that guys never come up to me. This never bothered me while I was in a relationship of course, but now I am a bit concerned about it.

I believe I am above average looking, so I doubt it's because of my looks. I however don't smile unless I have company. Like, I don't walk around with a smile on my face...

How do I make myself more approachable? How do I encourage guys who look at me to actually come up to me?

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago | pl

    Approach people at a rapid pace, giving them little chance to unapproach you.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      10 years ago

      For best results, ensure that your ski mask is secured tightly to your face and your in-hand 9 mm is fully loaded with a round in chamber.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Shut up. **showers you with tiny baby lizards to eat you away slowly**

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        • RoseIsabella
          10 years ago

          My heart is swelling from the cuteness of the baby lizards!

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          10 years ago

          I am a delicious addition to any reptillian Sundae.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            Be prepared to be ripped apart by baby lizards. Want to arm wrestle?

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  • DannyKanes
    10 years ago

    Go up and talk the guys :) Guys love confidence in a woman.

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    • shuggy-chan
      10 years ago

      that and uses your milkshakes to bring the boys to the yard

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        10 years ago

        Well you can teach her, but you'd have to try.

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        • shuggy-chan
          10 years ago

          Charge* I thought it was charge

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            I don't charge but I don't teach neither.

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          • NeuroNeptunian
            10 years ago

            I was under the impression that the secret ingredients to your milkshakes were free of charge.

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            • shuggy-chan
              10 years ago

              i might not cost you money, but trust me... it will cost you

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          • shuggy-chan
            10 years ago

            http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pGL2rytTraA&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DpGL2rytTraA

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      • zenparadox
        10 years ago

        That was cute.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    10 years ago

    I've heard a lot of people saying they find it harder to go up to someone who's attractive.
    Can't you go up to guys you like the look of? It's 2014, I find it a little weird that guys are still the ones who are expected to make the first move

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    You mentioned that you're "above average looking," with that in mind it's possible that perhaps guys are intimidated by you. But to be honest, you can't really expect people to come up and talk to you, even if you are Beyonce. If you want some company, try being the one who initiates the conversation. As DannyKanes said, men love women with confidence. And I'm sure the same goes for women about men. Forget about being approachable, be the one who talks instead of just the one who sits around twiddling her thumbs wondering why nobody wants to talk to her.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    10 years ago

    Smile.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I am newly single too, but strangely I have had an abnormal amount of guys interested in me, asking me to lunch, bowling, pool, movies, etc., and I didn't do a damn thing except say that I was single (valentines day was recent, so the topic came up).

    I am like you. I can come off cold until contact is initiated...So I try to be engaging and seem "warm" by making eye contact, giving faint smiles, being self-aware and confident (a very hard thing for me) and be open to conversation.

    One time I held a door open for a guy, and he got freaking elated. He thanked me, shook my hand, told me his name, and started initiating a conversation about how he never has had a girl open a door for him XD so sometimes it is those random acts of kindness that will get you noticed.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Here's a thought, something you girls seem to "never" be able to do in this subject. How about "YOU" put some effort in to initiating?

    -Sigh- This society that slays anyone that expects gender roles still have the people against gender roles expecting the gender role of men doing all the work, then sit there scratching their head when guys aren't approaching them...They probably aren't approaching you because other women actually get it, that sitting around expecting someone to put the effort in is something that's not a good plan.

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  • dickwashington
    10 years ago

    approach them from a distance give them sexy looks you know flirt a little bit with you face and body once they notice if your as beautiful as you say you are they will be lineing up and why not approach them or do you not care that much and just want the attention? dont forget to smile!

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    You're "newly single" so what's the big rush you hussy? You're not being approached because the scent of ex lingers upon you still...

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Some people constantly need to be in a relationship to help validate their existence and self worth. Ie turbo sluts are born.

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      • dirtybirdy
        10 years ago

        Yes I knew a girl like this. Disgusting whorebag she was.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Birds switch mates.

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    • CozmoWank
      10 years ago

      Wait, what about the scent of her ex's finger?
      Yeah, no that's just wrong.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    They are probably just intimidated by your glorious beauty. If you are "above average" then they probably think you already have a boyfriend. Maybe try to meet them half way and initiate some small talk. Take them by surprise. Be flirty enough to let the guy know that you are enjoying his presence. Smile, make eye contact, simple stuff like that. But do not come across as too flirtatious at the same time...

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