Ask Your Question today
Ok, so there is this girl that i really like and have liked for a while and really want to go out with her and i asked people and my friends if me changing who i am for her to like me was bad and they said yes. So how do I really know that me trying to get me to like her just isnt worth it or that she just isnt right for me?
It's bad to change who you are to fit someone else's wants. You'll be happier with Someone who likes you for who you really are. As cliche as it sounds.
(Btw dorks are cool and many of the dorkiest girls are really hot by the time you're in your 20s - just saying - there's hope for the dweebs who have the courage and patience to be themselves)
It's normal to feel that way. That doesn't mean you should change. From experience - at some point, a few or several years from now, if you change yourself for someone else, you're going to regret it. I know it sucks to hear, but if someone can't like you for who you are - no matter how dweeby that might be :-) - then you're NOT GOING TO BE HAPPY being with her. It's going to suck. Because every time you try to show her something you care about - share something that's important to you, which is a big part of relationships - you're going to be so so scared of what she might think or how she'll react. Please trust me - it's MUCH better to be you and NOT date that girl than pretend to be something else and date her. I know it's hard to be believe but SERIOUSLY - I PROMISE that's the case.
It depends if you're actually changing, or if you're just pretending to be someone you're not when you're around her. Change that isn't deep and isn't made on your own terms will make you feel like a fraud, and in the long term not being true to yourself will make you more unhappy than any relationship could compensate for.