How do i get this girl, and are my feelings normal?

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So there's this girl I went to high school with. I graduated a year ago, and she just graduated this June. Recently for whatever reason I can't stop thinking about her.

We were acquaintances. I had study hall with her my senior. We had a weird relationship, where we teased each other and it was very much all in good fun. I really didn't like her all that much at first, but by the time I graduated we were sort of friends. We never hung out outside of school at all though. We just talked here and there at school.
I went to her graduation and gave her a hug. She didn't look any different, but for some reason I've become attracted to her. She's by no means ugly, but she's not really hot either. She definitely did not see me romantically at all. The thing is though I now wear contacts, and I've put on about 12 pounds of muscle. I'm much better looking now than when I graduated. There is no way she's out of my league. Still I don't know what to do about it.
I guess I could talk to her on facebook, but asking her to hang out just the two of us just isn't what people our age do. I'm probably not going to see her at a party. we go to colleges on the opposite sides of the country, so I have to see her this summer.

I'm really distraught. I don't know what I see in her. I know if I had one more chance to see her, I think I could get her to like me. I just don't know how to get her to go on a date with me. She doesn't know how much better looking I've gotten, and she'd be really surprised that I like her. is it normal to want a chance with her?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I agree with Redcoats as well. To risk much is to gain much. But the person who gambles little, wins very little.

    Sometimes in life you have to take a chance otherwise you'll be standing around waiting forever. And this applies to all relationships, not just romantic ones.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    Attraction is about a lot of other things that matter much more than just looks, and it can come slowly instead of all at once. It sounds like you're just starting to understand that, although you're not 100% there yet.

    Which is still fine because some people never learn. They just move from one empty, superficial relationship to the next.

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  • Redcoats
    11 years ago

    Just man up and contact her already. You never know, she could be thinking the exact same thing as you.

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  • IINtobeonthiswebsite
    8 years ago

    Next time you see her, pull our your dick and ask her if she wants to suck it.

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  • MTL1909Fan
    11 years ago

    I wanted to ask a cute girl to be my girlfriend before but I only kept it to myself for a year and now she moved away to Cuba.

    So, give it a shot. You'll be regretting it if you do not ask her about it.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    That's the problem though. Teenagers rarely g on dates anymore! It's no longer the "traditional" thing to do.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      its "always" the thing to do, dates are fun especially for food and movies

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      • zackattack
        11 years ago

        Right but she would say no. There is no way she likes me in that way.

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          you will make it known when you ask, if she turns you down say "aw come on you'll have fun" if she says no be friendly smile and say goodbye, first step..then when you see her again ask again"how about now?" if she says no laugh it off, be friendly no matter how your pride is, i think its a good idea, it would work for me

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          • Mando
            11 years ago

            Exactly.

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            • zackattack
              11 years ago

              That's the problem. We're going to separate colleges and its summertime. I'm never going to see her again in person.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    This is why we have social conventions such as - ta da - dating! So rather than wrench yourself over all these doubts, second guessing and unknowables - ask her out for a date. Like to dinner, to a movie, theatre, a concert ... you get the picture. If she is interested or not she will tell you then you will know something.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    For all you know, she is on IIN, reading this post, and she is one of the people telling you to man up and contact her (having no idea you are talking about her).

    Just do it, what is the worst that can happen? Every guy gets rejected now and again! I have, and I think i'm alright looking, and I know I have a good personality!

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    You just have to make the first move

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  • o_0
    11 years ago

    man !!! go forward... she might be waiting for you... or may be you need to work a little to make her yours ...just do it.... dont go for appearance just see how you feel about her ....!!! say to your self you are perfect tell her that she is perfect for you.... and make a LOVE story and enjoy...:P AND DO INFORM US THROUGH COMMENT IF YOU SUCCEED.....!!!

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    • Boo!
      11 years ago

      Haha, when I sae your pic I thought the girl was holding a gun. Nice username.

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      • o_0
        11 years ago

        O O....!!! isnt it a good one ...i just like her so i kept her pic as a profile pic... thanx for liking ma user name .... but how about my advise :p....

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        • Boo!
          11 years ago

          Oh I see. Your advice was top notch. You did good. Now there is only one problem.. What do I call you? This -> o_o? Its seems so speechless!?!?

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          • o_0
            11 years ago

            you can call me miss WIDE AWAKE... ;p thats suits na... or red eyes i just got the second one in a post where many were getting a slogan for their mysterious names in INN....

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            • Boo!
              11 years ago

              Haha ok I like that, Miss wide awake. It reminds me of the song by perry. Oh I see. Well, I've already become fond of miss wide awake so I'm gonna call you that. Oh and you can call me boo. :p

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  • precious8308
    11 years ago

    I agree with Redcoat

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  • s77
    11 years ago

    Knock her over the head and bring her to your basement where only you can have her. Keep her well fed, but not too well fed because then she will get fat. Fat girls are gross.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      A sound suggestion, and you can save on pet food when your done with it. Or human food depending on inclination.

      On a lighter note, i've always wanted to keep a chick in my basement. How much fun would it be seriously? I mean really, truly. You can do whatever you want, no objections. You get pissed off, go home and beat her. You get horny, go home and rape her. You get really horny, go home and sodomize her. You get bored, go home and electrocute her with a jumper lead set up. You get bored and horney, go home and whip her. I get excited just thinking about it. If i could work out a fullproof plan to evade capture for such a thing, oh boy.

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      • MTL1909Fan
        11 years ago

        ..the hell's wrong with you?

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          What do you mean? Think about it, it would be fun, gives me a boner just thinking about it.

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