How do i forget her

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I'm friends with a girl who I think I might be in love with I've essentially had feelings for her for about a year and they won't go away, I like everything about her and our connection is so natural and easy and engaging I've never met anyone like her before.. its unrequited, she has told me before she doesn't want to lead me on. I know she likes me a lot as a friend but I can't get her beauty out of my head I've tried so hard, I want to move on and allow myself to find someone else who wants me but everytime I imagine being in a relationship with someone else inevitably she pops into my head and instantly the mental image seems so much more right, I don't want to lose our friendship but this is killing me I just want nothing more than to be with her and make her happy but I know that I never will so how do I move on do I have to straight up abandon the friendship all together? Any advice is much appreciated.

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  • jud3IV3
    3 years ago

    If your feelings are unrequited then your experience of the "connection" might not be as accurate as you think, i.e. you might have been seeing what you want to see. A lot of that could be because you find her very attractive and skews your perspective of her. In reality, we all have flaws and love is when you both show each other your flaws and either accept them or work through them together. My two cents, you need to end the friendship and untrain your brain of its obsession with her. Reflecting on both of your actions in the friendship and how that contributed to where you are now, which is in a place of understandable hurt, is going to help you find a healthy loving relationship in the future. You seem like you have a lot of love to give and that means that you deserve it in return.

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    • hababa42
      3 years ago

      Amen!!!!! Please take a break my friend. My bsf used to have a crush on me and he acted like he didnt, then it built up to him having tantrums when i like someone else. Take a break pls!

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  • YE
    3 years ago

    Start getting yourself to places where you can strategically watch her dating another guy, or guys. That way, you should be able to find closure.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    End the friendship or at the very least take a break from it.
    She'll get it.

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  • rocketdave
    3 years ago

    Grow up!

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  • thepuppet
    3 years ago

    if she knows about it and is mature enough to not lead you on, you can choose to end the friendship and force yourself to spend time with others and your feelings will eventually fade

    if that's not realistic then it'll just take a while but it is what it is

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    It will go away when you meet a new girl and the process will repeat itself with her

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