How do i deal with my mom that found out i had sex i’m 20

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Hi all, I am 20 years old and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years now. He is 21 years old. He stays with me and my mom and has been staying with us for about 2 years now. (We share the same room) so recently my mom found out that we were having sex. She found a condom in the room. We have an open relationship but we have never spoken about the sex topic except when she explained to me how it works and what not when I have like 9. How do I handle this situation? I am pretty sure she is really angry with me and obviously she’s disappointed. How do I even explain myself to her? How do I get her to understand? I don’t want her to be angry with me and see me in a bad light. I know that she had sex with my dad for the first time when she was 17 years old so it’s not like she waited until she was married. I really need advice on how to handle this situation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    At 20 years old your sex life is none of your mother's business. Done.

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    You've shared a room for two years and you think she's only just figure out you're having sex?

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    • Meisiekind
      5 years ago

      Well I guess she suspected it but the condom was probably confirmation to her suspicion... now she’s angry 🙈

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  • Hornyandhung47
    5 years ago

    Deal with it in one of two ways. 1)ask her if she's mad then she can spank you. 2) Ask your mom if she wants to have sex with him,if she says yes then mention it to him. If he's up for it,then let him.

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  • Hornyandhung47
    5 years ago

    She's not upset with you. She's using that as a way to condone her having sex before marriage. You're an adult,what you do does not concern her. If I were you I'd move out,so you and him can be away from her

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    You allow this to be her business by still living with her as an adult.

    Just move out.

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    • Meisiekind
      5 years ago

      I am moving out end of March 2019. Already planned.

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      • SwickDinging
        5 years ago

        Then don't worry about it. It's none of her business. She won't like the thought of her baby growing up but so what, that's life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You’re 20 - that means you’re an adult, and your actions aren’t any of her business. And how can she see you on bad light, she had sex herself, right?

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Uncomfortable but not a big deal. She is a woman too.

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    • Meisiekind
      5 years ago

      I would say. It really is uncomfortable, she isn’t even speaking to me

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        Did you have a no sex deal or something? She is probably disappointed that you didn't keep your word but how could she possibly expect you too. She's human.

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  • Lestat565
    5 years ago

    Your of legal age so she can’t do anything about it. She should be happy your using safe sex. You are an adult. Tell her to mind her business.

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  • SmokeEverything
    5 years ago

    If you've been together that long and are still using condoms... youre wasting your time.

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