How do i cope with a distant relationship?

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So...there's a person I really like (not gonna specify gender and name) and we've been talking for at least 8 months. At the beginning we're just chatting about our lives and problems, but good things as well. But two months later we started sexting and sending nudes to each other.
By now we know a lot about each other. I even know how their family looks like and where they live. And that's when the problem starts.
We live far away from each other, each one in a different country. They already admitted that it would be nice to have a more serious relationship, instead of just talking through the chat. But since they had problems with their pasts partners, they're kinda hesitant that everything could go wrong again. They say I'm one of the most intimate person they have in their life, even though I have never seen them in person, only through pics.
I also wanna meet them, but currently I don't have money enough to buy a ticket to travel and I'm unemployed. I'm trying my hardest to find a job to gather money enough and visit them, but I'm scared that they'll lose interest in me if I take too long to see them. I just wanna show them that's possible to have a stable and peaceful relationship. I'm willing to make changes for them. They're afraid of not being perfect and scaring me away, but I'm willing to endure their flaws, and even help changing as well if they want.
I'm feeling unsafe about losing this opportunity, and uncertainty about anything being fake and that at the end, I won't be able to stay with them.
Is this a good idea? Should I keep going and try to build a more strong bond even being far away? What do you guys think?

Just forget about it. Don't waste your time with this 1
This seems suspicious...not so sure about that one 5
Well...you could try when you have a chance 2
Go for it, that seems like a good opportunity 4
YES! YES! YES! 0
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  • throw_away
    5 years ago

    If they can't video chat, it's probably not for real. Sorry man. Even if they are real, if they aren't willing to prove it somehow, that's pretty off-putting. Everyone has a phone these days, so they could at least try to call you or something to prove they are real.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Maybe it's a catfish?

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  • AceWhitehouse
    5 years ago

    you should try to contact @luxurypranks on youtube. the situation you have described seems similar to ones they deal with. have you ever video chatted with them? they seem almost too good to be true. have you considered that perhaps it could be a catfish? Luxury Pranks' channel will even go so far sometimes to fly out and meet you and/or the person you are talking to and even bring you with them. they do some research on the background of the person to see if its actually the individual you are talking to. i think you should consider doing a backwards image search on the images he/she has sent you to see if they are from online and do a number search to see if their name is identical to the owner of the phone. i'd hate for you to go all that way to find out the person is not who they say they are.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Oh! That's a detail I forgot to mention.
      I did some research about them with the pics they sent me, as well as their name and location. This person is not fake and I have search a lot to know that. They have informations about themselves since 2011 scattered on many social media sites.

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