Ask Your Question today
I asked my bf tonight if he sees us together forever, weve been dating for 9-10 months... he's almost 27 and I'm almost 19. He said "idk" and I kinda got sad and asked why and he got so mad. Idk how to ask the question, like in a good way w/o him getting mad.. help
How do I say this. OK this may sound condescending and may not even apply to you.
When you're 19 you can feel like you want to be with someone forever after 10 months of dating, and I am not denying the validity of your feelings.
Once you get to be in your mid 20s you perhaps have already had a relationship you wanted to last forever fail, and then something inside you changes. Its a lesson and it doesn't mean he doesn't want the same, but he won't say it as soon.
If you're happy dating him now, then there really is no need to talk about that.
Like if you are happy together I don't think its a necessary conversation.
If it is so important to have this established right now then you propose to him to marry you.
If that makes sense.
But trust me I know the itchiness of it, I've wanted to ask it too.
This may be way too outside the box but it could also be the case something completely unrelated is giving you anxiety and that is manifesting itself in you having these concerns about your seemingly great relationship.
I think the question needs to be analyzed a bit further. Are you asking him if you should leave him? Or are you saying should you begin preparing to start a family? If he says no that makes him sound heartless, and if he says yes that is an incredible amount of pressure to put on him. Especially without you coming forth and saying your feelings. The truth is that marriage and starting a family is expensive as well and there are certain things you guys would need other than just your feelings. The question just really has no place in a relationship and isn't fair in my opinion. To a partner it sounds like doubt, and I think you should be thankful he simply got mad and then supposedly has moved on.
Maybe there is a man out there who knows he wants you for the rest of his life today. But that is not very common so early. I think it would be best to accept your boyfriends answer and not ask things like that.
OK, yeah that part may not apply. But at the end of the day if your partner sees you dating forever isn't something you get to know in a relationship. You can either leave him or propose to him. Otherwise its a relationship, there isn't much else to say.
listen to me. you might love this man but you need to find someone whod never even hesatate.